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Old 03-25-2013, 07:09 PM
 
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I went to this amazing first date with a guy I had randomly met a couple of days before.
He brought me to the best possible place and behaved really well. Perfect gentleman. Couldn't have asked for a better date. We went for coffee in the afternoon btw.
I gladly agreed to a second date the day after when he asked me to go for drinks. Again to an amazing place. However, there was something off with that evening.. I have like a gutt feeling that he might be just a player.

He introduced me to a girl friend of his as "his friend" (ok we have been on only two dates, but he could have introduced me by only my name without the friend part). He was very gentlemanly that evening too, but I think it was weird he didnt compliment me or try to hold my hand or something. But he always looked a lot at me in the eyes and talked a lot (not boring though).
At the end of the evening I thought he didnt like me more than a friend, but then when i was about to get out of his car, he kissed me. Like real tongue kiss. I was really turned on by it so I kissed back. Then with a smirk in his face he said "bye"

(Im 20 he is 25)
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Old 03-25-2013, 07:11 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well you aren't his girlfriend yet; I think he is being careful.

It sounds like he is being respectful and taking his time to get to know you. No need to hump all over you right now, right?
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Old 03-25-2013, 07:30 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Here's a news flash: most people don't have firm intentions on the first few dates. They could have any number of things going on in their minds.

How they feel is subject to change.
There is no predestination.
The situation is fluid.
It may or may not be all about you.

Frustrating yes. Just try to keep breathing. Be patient.
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Old 03-25-2013, 07:48 PM
 
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So, you're already worried after 2 dates?

I wouldn't worry about it until he's obvious.
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Old 03-25-2013, 09:07 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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I went to this amazing first date with a guy I had randomly met a couple of days before.
He brought me to the best possible place and behaved really well. Perfect gentleman. Couldn't have asked for a better date. We went for coffee in the afternoon btw.
I gladly agreed to a second date the day after when he asked me to go for drinks. Again to an amazing place. However, there was something off with that evening.. I have like a gutt feeling that he might be just a player.

He introduced me to a girl friend of his as "his friend" (ok we have been on only two dates, but he could have introduced me by only my name without the friend part). He was very gentlemanly that evening too, but I think it was weird he didnt compliment me or try to hold my hand or something. But he always looked a lot at me in the eyes and talked a lot (not boring though).
At the end of the evening I thought he didnt like me more than a friend, but then when i was about to get out of his car, he kissed me. Like real tongue kiss. I was really turned on by it so I kissed back. Then with a smirk in his face he said "bye"

(Im 20 he is 25)
What are his "intentions"?

After just 2 dates, I'd say his intention is to figure out if he wants to ask you out for a third date, lol.

Odds are pretty good at this point he will since both dates seemed to have gone pretty well.

At your age, play it smart though.

Remember what "the Matchmaker" Patty Stanger always says, "No sex until monogamy!" - THAT'S how you know he's not a player.
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Old 03-25-2013, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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She's 20, he's 25. Oh you crazy kids!

I can tell you that even in my mid-30's that transition from a couple dates to becoming an item is a turbulent one. He may very well like you, but he could be afraid to show you out of fear of scaring you off. Give it a few more dates, and hopefully he'll show you his true colors.
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Old 03-25-2013, 09:37 PM
 
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OP, it sounds like your dates went well. I think it is too early to worry about his "intentions". It sounds like he likes you, take you to nice places, is a gentleman, and is interested in you. Go with the flow.
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Old 03-26-2013, 04:34 AM
 
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But it's like he just suddenly stuck his tongue in my mouth, there wasn't really any romance in that moment. And since he didn't really do any typically romantic gestures during the date I have the feeling he only likes me that way.. Too early to judge though?
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Old 03-26-2013, 07:25 AM
 
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How did he take you for Drinks if you are only 20?
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Old 03-26-2013, 07:55 AM
 
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How did he take you for Drinks if you are only 20?
Forgot to mention this is in Europe
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