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You need to be single and work out your issues because you aren't mentally or emotionally up to being in a relationship. You haven't treated this young lady with anything resembling kindness, affection, or respect. If you are at the age where hanging with your buddies is still your #1 priority that's fine but acknowledge that desire and don't get into serious relationships. Women expect their man to want to spend time with them and most of us like holidays and birthdays to be remembered and celebrated. Stick to one night stands and solo love for now. You are not relationship material.
It's not ok to spit on a woman, or on anyone. You can't make it ok. Name calling too? Your father raised you not to be disrespectful towards women? What happened?
There is nothing to be done..She is smart by leaving sorry if this is not the answer you were looking for…
This is seems to be heading and she clearly doesn't to be with me anymore.
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You stated you wanted advice from people 20-22?
That's our ages. I'm 22 and she's 20.
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Good luck..There are young men your age that would never act like this nor fathom treating their g/f in such a manner .simply because this would never occur to them..
I know, which is why I was shocked too when it happened. I apologized right away but it's not good enough. I've been trouble falling asleep because I can't stop thinking about what I did.
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I am surprised you come from a household that has little tolerance for this type of behavior..
My advice to you? Leave her alone…cut your LOSSES…let her find a good man because at 20-22 that’s what you are…
I would enroll in some anger management course and learn ho to control your temper before it becomes worse and you end up in jail..
I think the problem is that I've tried doing many things at the same time; taking classes, working, hanging out with friends, having a gf (well now ex gf), visting a sick relatives, etc and I got overwhelmed. I'm not excusing myself BTW. I know there was no excuse what I did and unfortunately it cost my relationship.
You need to be single and work out your issues because you aren't mentally or emotionally up to being in a relationship. You haven't treated this young lady with anything resembling kindness, affection, or respect. If you are at the age where hanging with your buddies is still your #1 priority that's fine but acknowledge that desire and don't get into serious relationships. Women expect their man to want to spend time with them and most of us like holidays and birthdays to be remembered and celebrated. Stick to one night stands and solo love for now. You are not relationship material.
I don't mean to sound bad but I'm really forget when it comes to dates. I really didn't mean to forget Valentine's Day but I've apologized for that too and I thought she wasn't hurt about that anymore. Wrong. Now I know girls remember every little detail.
Lol jokes aside. Spitting is considered an extremely hostile act, basically like punching someone in the face, possibly even worse (in a symbolic way). You're lucky she hasn't filed charges for assault...yet.
No she wasn't. Last message I got now was basically telling me that she wouldn't file charges but not to contact her again and how that was the last straw.
You make excuses for your actions but life is very stressful at times for everyone and your response to stress is abnormal and would not be tolerated by many in our society. Stress is part of adult life. Learn from this and learn how to manage it appropriately because guaranteed 100% more of it is coming in the future.
It seems like you have a problem with criticism.
You couldn't take the criticism (you admitted she was right) from your gf so you spat on her and called her a nasty name.
Right off the bat your first post stated that you didn't want people to come down on you. You're worried about your dad finding out not because he would think less of you as a person but for the fact that he might criticize. So it appears that whether or not you're under stress you don't want anyone to criticize you or confront you on your crappy behavior and bad attitude.
Seems like you are one of those "special snowflake" children who is growing into a self-entitled adult.
No she wasn't. Last message I got now was basically telling me that she wouldn't file charges but not to contact her again and how that was the last straw.
I don't think you come close to deserving her or deserving a chance with this one. Sorry. That was the epitome of disrespectful and basal.
You also came off in your post as not really thinking what you did was wrong, but more fearing that you'd experience repercussions from your family. So nope. I hope she moves on happily.
No, I'm really sorry. I regret it and would do almost the impossible to have her back. I'll be a better bf than what I was and even go on the way to marking important dates on my walls.
You can give her a sincere apology but then move on and realize she has also. What you did was abusive and there are women who absolutely will not accept abuse. I don't think you should try to win her back but learn from this.
I don't mean to sound bad but I'm really forget when it comes to dates. I really didn't mean to forget Valentine's Day but I've apologized for that too and I thought she wasn't hurt about that anymore. Wrong. Now I know girls remember every little detail.
It's inconsiderate to forget, but we're all inconsiderate at times. We all screw up. But, spitting in someone's face is just one of those things. Show her some respect by letting her go. Don't try to put her in a situation where she even considers being with someone that would treat her like that. If you really want to learn from this grave error then start showing it.
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