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Old 04-07-2013, 07:36 AM
 
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I met a guy a few months ago and we hit it off. When the time came, he had a hard time,well, keeping it hard. I didn't see him for a couple of months and we've recently been talking again. Well, the other nite it happened again. Now we were drunk and he mentioned that it had to do w/ his morals, (I'm still married), but I'm wanting to know if this is a thing w/ him or is it me, and to let him know it's ok if it's a common problem for him. How can I go about this?

This thread isn't to bash me for still being married and looking, BTW. I'll start a new one for that if need be.
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:10 AM
 
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Maybe his penis knows what he's trying to do is wrong and won't cooperate.

Leave him alone, he's married.
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:28 AM
 
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Wait, I thought she was married? Is he married too?
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:45 AM
 
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I don't think you should bring it up at all. He told you what reason he thinks it's due to, so why not accept that? Also, why would you tell him it's okay if this is a chronic problem for him? Is it really okay? Will it really be okay a year or 5 years from now? I don't see the point of taking a risk of having an affair only to choose a man with ED, and especially one who has already told you he thinks being with a married woman is against his morals? Sure, you can convince him it's okay if you try hard enough, but if it's not really in him to do this, he's going to hate himself for it eventually and then resent you for talking him into it.
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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One of my best friends had this problem recently. He had been dealing with ED for a while but had hoped it would not be an issue with her as his new interest.

Well, it WAS an issue. They discussed it, but only after the third unsuccessful try.

But they are both divorced and very into each other. He went to the doc and was able to get something to help.



BTW **You can't tell the internet what kind of advice to give you because, inevitably, your "issues" are all connected.**

Sort out your personal life before you drag someone else into it.
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:59 AM
 
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I'm still married not him. And, yes, it is ok w/ me, especially if it is just an occasional problem or even if it isn't. We both have 2 kids, both not wanting anymore, so since he does have other ways of getting things done, it doesn't bother me unless there is something I could do to help him. If it works out, then there's always the little pills, after all.
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Old 04-07-2013, 09:09 AM
 
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I'm still married not him. And, yes, it is ok w/ me, especially if it is just an occasional problem or even if it isn't. We both have 2 kids, both not wanting anymore, so since he does have other ways of getting things done, it doesn't bother me unless there is something I could do to help him. If it works out, then there's always the little pills, after all.
He already told you what you could do to help him, because he told you what the problem is. Again, why is it you don't believe him?
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Old 04-07-2013, 09:18 AM
 
Location: NYC
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What is the point of cheating with someone who can't get it up? If you are going to cheat, go for the big bang. Find yourself a younger guy with a reliable erection.
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Old 04-07-2013, 09:26 AM
 
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Wait, I thought she was married? Is he married too?
OOps...you are right!

Still...his body is telling him No, No, No because while he may be all into it, subconsciously he's knows it's wrong.
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Old 04-07-2013, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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Still married getting drunk banging some dude wondering if he has ED.

*shaking my head*
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