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Originally Posted by moonwatcher
Do you let them know you are? When one of them asks you to do something when you have plans with sometime ether, do you make up a lie or tell the person that the truth?
I personally would not volunteer that info unless I was directly asked. I would say I have other plans when asked and leave it at that. No one has asked me to be exclusive so I feel I should not volunteer anything until I am asked to be exclusive.
I personally would not volunteer that info unless I was directly asked. I would say I have other plans when asked and leave it at that. No one has asked me to be exclusive so I feel I should not volunteer anything until I am asked to be exclusive.
Why should someone ask someone else to be exclusive if that person hasn't been completely honest?
Do you let them know you are? When one of them asks you to do something when you have plans with sometime ether, do you make up a lie or tell the person that the truth?
I don't think you should say anything unless he asks you if you are, then you can volunteer the information if you want, but really I don't think that's anyone's business except you're own.
I would want to know if my date is also dating others. I've never casually dated more than one person at a time, but I still think it's better to be up-front about it so everyone knows where they stand.
I agree with this. I think it's sneaky to date more than one person at a time. It's not fair to either person. If I started to date someone, how much emotion/ what I would think of her would DRASTICALLY change if I knew that she was seeing someone else as well. It's sneaky in my opinion. You are allowing others to view you falsely. Plus, who wants to start having serious feelings for someone if they know that tomorrow that someone may be getting it on with someone else. Plus, it say's more than just that. It says that that person isn't sure how they feel about you. There are just too many negative conontations to it all. Be honest, that way, both people, or all three people you are dating can step back and assess the situation fairly. I certainly wouldn't date two people at once. To me it's just kind of selfish. But if you are going to do it, atleast be honest about it so that both parties know that there is competition.
All of these people saying that it isn't any of their business yet, I don't agree with. I wouldn't even ask a girl out on a date if I knew that she dated multiple people all at the same time.
That'd be up to you.
What do you want to hide?
What do you want to reveal?
"I went to the gym, ran some errands, then went out to dinner"
"Kewl! Who'd you go to dinner with?"
Now, the other person is probably asking if you're dating other people, so it's probably best to...be honest.
Everyone knows what certain words mean as well. If you're doing something but you don't want to delve further into it, you just say you have plans. Those plans usually include the opposite sex that you may like.
Being honest is the best way to date multiple people. I'm ok with seeing multiple people if I'm not physical with any of them, but if I'm serious, I have to respect everyone and tell them what's going on. That gives them a chance to decide if they are ok with what I'm doing.
I've never had this problem since I've never dated more than one person at a time. There have been opportunities to date more than one girl at a time, but I can only focus on one person at a time.
Everyone knows what certain words mean as well. If you're doing something but you don't want to delve further into it, you just say you have plans. Those plans usually include the opposite sex that you may like.
Being honest is the best way to date multiple people. I'm ok with seeing multiple people if I'm not physical with any of them, but if I'm serious, I have to respect everyone and tell them what's going on. That gives them a chance to decide if they are ok with what I'm doing.
This is exactly what you should do. I've known women who did not divulge this information and well, it just seemed odd to me. One friend ended up marrying one of the guys and the others were terrible hurt and taken aback the day she announced her engagement - as you can image. Which I thought was handled wrong in my opinion.
I don't see a problem with people dating more than one person at a time as long as no sex is involved and as long as EVERYONE knows the situation. It helps people not put all their eggs in one basket. Once you start telling lies, it becomes a vicious circle. Sure you can hold back info but when someone starts asking questions and you leave out particulars or fudge the facts it starts sliding down a slippery slope.
Back in the day when I was young and dating, (I'm nearly 50 now,) it was looked down upon for a woman to date more than one man at a time. I'm sure they did but they would have never, ever let it out that they were. Men did all the time, but it was a big no no for women. We were called names back then. So revel in the this day's freedom for women but don't be a jerk about it. Treat others has you would want to be treated is the best golden rule of thumb to follow.
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