Women who approaches (dating, advice, friends, social)

[Gabriella Geramia]

I'm just going through a dry spell and tired of the creeps that message me on dating sites. So far the only guys that get me interested are ones I find kinda cute at the store, the gym, or the coffee shop. I'm going to take matters into my own hands and I'm tired of going back to my exes just because I'm lonely. I don't mind taking the initiative and being rejected, but I've never done it before so I don't want to come across as a creep, as being too aggressive, or worse (what I usually do) is being too subtle. It's weird in this day and age to just approach a stranger, and how do I know if that guy isn't a creep? I haven't actually even found anyone that made me feel that inclined to approach him, but I want some male attention, lol, so, yeah... Just wanting to hear some advice and stories on women approaching men if you have any. Thanks!

[mainebrokerman]

depends where you are, but if you see someone you might be interested in-

just a big smile **** your head.... and eye contact,, and hi...,thats it,,,no more complicated than that..


i've had many woman approach me asking for directions,, or if in a grocery store "i need a male perspective, can you help me out"? (on food choices)
mistaken identity seems to work very well,- "didnt we meet about 6 months ago at a friends wedding"?

if concerned about the creepers,,,just pay attention to hygeine...
and something is going to attract you to him, before you make an approach - so this will weed out many anyways,,,

like everything else in life-you dont know if you dont try..

[intelfan11315]

For one, most people are not creeps.. most people are normal people going about their daily lives. Most people are nice, most people enjoy conversation.

"Cold approach" in my eyes is kind of useless. I don't like to do that, instead I just talk to everyone I see. I start conversations with people of any age and gender and just talk. If I see a girl I'm talking to and we hit it off I'll grab her number. If I don't notice much then I won't. Be nonchalant and laid back and nothing will be awkward.

What you're doing is great, not only for meeting new people but also for your well being. Most humans are social creatures, and we thrive on social interaction. The most positive interactions you have with people the better your days will be and the happier person you'll be.

All that typing, and the main idea from that is to simply talk to people with no expectations and if things seem nice, ask em. My idea with dating is there are no rules, nothing to worry about.. go with what's comfortable for you. If someone makes you comfortable, end it. If you make someone uncomfortable.. well there's someone out there who will like you for that.

Good luck, glad to see you're making a positive change in your life.

[dave nz]

Have had many girls do the approaching with me. Heres my take :

You don't even need to go as far as asking the guy out if you don't want to. Just drop a hint, flirt, smile by friendly and most us guys will do the rest if we are into you.
Remember most people aren't going to be offended by such an approach if you do it as described above. In fact most will be flattered and look back on it as good times.