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After ending a long relationship, is it normal to become slightly promiscuous and sleep around?
I (27m) never once cheated during the 10 years with my exwife, and she was my first GF. However, since then (actually the past 2-3 months) I've been with 6 women I met from dating sites, and have always used protection..
Is that normal and understandable?
Would you think less of a partner you got into a serious relationship with, knowing that's their history?
I say whatever helps you deal. People deal with break ups differently. Also, as I understand it, men are supposed to be culturally promiscuous. I'm not sure if it's true but that's what I've heard. To me it seems normal.
As long as you're being safe, getting regularly tested and if the time comes you're willing to commit and not cheat (or just not get into a relationship at all) then I see absolutely no problem with it.
Personally, I don't care what a guys number is as long as he's clean and honest about his intentions.
I think it's a relatively proven method to get our strength and self-confidence back.
No, my wife went through several long (5-10 year) relationships with these kinds of interludes in between. She was perfectly open about it. The more experience you have with the ups and downs of life, the more you can grow from it. In both of our cases, we had gotten a little tired of casual sex when we met and wanted more than sex. It's worked out wonderfully well.
eh, we all go through it. Its a great confidence booster when the end of a relationship shatters it. As long as you're safe, you're not hurting anyone.
After ending a long relationship, is it normal to become slightly promiscuous and sleep around?
I (27m) never once cheated during the 10 years with my exwife, and she was my first GF. However, since then (actually the past 2-3 months) I've been with 6 women I met from dating sites, and have always used protection..
Is that normal and understandable?
Would you think less of a partner you got into a serious relationship with, knowing that's their history?
I'm assuming that the women you are with know that you are only out for sex at this time. In other words, you're not lying to them or promising them more than you want to give just to get them into bed, right?
RIGHT?
If so, I'll say that it's not unusual and it is understandable. However, it could be that you're not entirely comfortable with it yourself, which is why you're asking here.
Ask yourself why you're doing this. Is it to sow some wild oats before looking for a relationship? Are you lonely? Are you doing it to fill time? Do you feel like you are in control of it? Your answers will tell you whether what you are doing is right for you. Some people can go a little wild, get it out of their system, and move on. Other people end up unhappy or feeling bad about themselves.
But even if you decide you're comfortable with it, at some point you will probably want to slow down, for the sake of your physical and your emotional health. Condoms do not protect against all STDs. You can still get things like herpes and the strains of HPV that cause warts. And you may find yourself wanting a little bit more than just sex. But also, the more people you are with, the greater the chance of you running into a psycho, especially if you don't have a lot of experience with women and are still learning to spot the signs.
Would you think less of a partner you got into a serious relationship with, knowing that's their history?
There seems to be an assumption here that getting into a serious relationship necessitates a blow by blow detailed account of one's sexual history and encounters.
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