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My questions: What is the most times you have broken up and got back with the same person? What are some stories of you and your ex breaking up and then getting back together? And what are some stories of how/what you did to make the break up final?
Two things brings this thread to life. One was the "Do you still talk to your ex" thread and the other is an incident last night I had with my ex.
We have been broken up for about a month, then last night she text me needing help setting up a new tv and bluray player she got herself. Well, after I set it up I was hungry, so was she, so we went out to eat. And after a few drinks that we had with dinner we ended up at my place.
She asked to spend the night because it was "hard to sleep in her new place" as she now has 4 roomates. I saw no harm in it until we started to fool around. Now even though we did not go "all the way" we definitely did things that ex'es don't do. Now, I must deal with this issue as I still do not want to get back together with her, and I am afraid she does, and probably will take last night as a mixed message when to me it was just us falling into a familiar pattern that we had for 7 years together.
Well, if you don't want to get back together with her, don't. It doesn't matter her perception of the fooling around the other night. Tell her you don't want to get back together at this time. Be sure you do not want this girl as eventually she will move on. It's only been a month. I'd suggest some space, no contact , no seeing each other for a few months. You both probably need to clear your heads.
And to answer your question, I had one relationship that was on and off from day 1 and lasted 10 years, too many break ups and reunions to count 6 maybe? And the other shorter (but more serious which sounds more like yours) we were on and off 3 or 4 times and been off so long this time that I really am unsure what to think. The future is in your hands. Good luck and keep us posted.
Getting back together is possible and it sure feels good ... But I think most of the posters are correct in that it rarely works out in the long run ... It can but it takes a lot of trust. My experience is it never has worked although it was worth trying. Once the words "break up" are brought into a relationship that is usually a very bad sign for its permanence.
Getting back together is possible and it sure feels good ... But I think most of the posters are correct in that it rarely works out in the long run ... It can but it takes a lot of trust. My experience is it never has worked although it was worth trying. Once the words "break up" are brought into a relationship that is usually a very bad sign for its permanence.
Yes. My philosophy is if it didn't work out the first time, it's not going to work out a subsequent time, unless the breakup was due to something like geography and someone moved away and back again, as opposed to issues between the couple.
Breaking up and getting back together doesnt seem to work in almost all cases. Its pointless and a waste of time IMO.
This is our 4th breakup in 7 years. I plan on making this one stick. I am just sad because IF she thinks last night was us getting back together, I will probably have to hurt her again and I don't want to do that.
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Originally Posted by SeekingWomanMyAge
Getting back together is possible and it sure feels good.
It does, and it did. But it's almost like a trip to dreamland and when you wake up the issues and problems you had before are still there. But it was comforting and felt like all the sad and bad feelings were gone if just for a little while
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Originally Posted by lastwomanstanding
Well, if you don't want to get back together with her, don't. .
I don't plan to. I was just asking for stories from y'all as I am sure I am not the only one who goes through the breakup/makeup cycle.
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