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This is the point. She's from southern California, her standard is reasonable in my opinion.
I tried to post a message on another forum, one idiot replied, "Your opinion doesn't count because you are from Newport Beach where everybody is a yuppie with sense of entitlement issue."
To me, this is discrimination.
I face similar issues when I am overseas: there isn't as much quantity of good looking girls. The quality or hotness of people in So-Cal is comparable to only a few places in the World. First reason being the diversity: You have every race & mixed races available. The beach/gym culture, where girls are tan year long. You also have a lot of people inspiring to be involved in media, so dressing nice is always a priority.
In the case of females: plastic surgery is also quite common here. Not really my thing (I'm a hairy chested Euro) but a lot of guys here shave their chest etc.
Put all those together and you get a physically conscious society. It's silly to call it an entitlement because ''looking good'' isn't something that just happens. It takes work, planning and money. But it's another story to be rude to others solely based on how they look. That's the glory of the Gym. If all you had to do was workout every once in a while then everyone would look fit and it wouldn't be something to be proud of. Instead being physically fit is just like passing a course in college. Consistent and steady work put in.
I know I'm a bit shallow just like most of the people who are living in OC. My friends said I have high standards and I will end up single for the rest of my life. Aside from having a GREAT PERSONALITY, I WILL ONLY date guys who are:
- educated. He needs to have atleast a college degree. He has to have a great career. So far, I've only dated guys who are managers of their departments.
- tall. Nobody shorter than 5'9. Not taller than 6'2.
- physically fit. He needs to have a nice tight body. He needs to be physically active or working out regularly.
- good looking. This part is self explanatory. Cute face is mandatory. No balding head.
So far, I have no problem finding guys described above. I have actually dated a few of them. I think what I'm looking for is reasonable. I think it's what most of the girls are looking for in a guy. What do you guys think?
As long as you can get guys, then your requirement is reasonable.
But you better have something to offer, because only like 1% off all guys are like that, and they have a lot of options.
You will not marry most likely. An alpha male will date maybe in a relationship with you, but will not exchange vows with you at a wedding. A man will marry B woman, B man will marry C woman, C man will marry D woman. Men marry down and women marru up. Your best bit is probably become an alpha female single mom and throw in the towel.
So you are saying A women don't marry? I disagree, equals marry equals. This is how I believe it works
A man will date A/B woman, but marry a A woman
B man will date B/C woman, but marry a B woman
C man will date C/D woman, but marry a C woman
D man will date a few D women, but marry a D woman
Men tend to marry down in terms of income, but women do the same for looks. Except in America obesity is more of a problem among women.
I'm sure you'll meet a man who meets your qualifications. However, I might point out that your requirements are mostly physical. You said nothing about honest, faithful or loving. Those are pretty important factors if you want a permanent relationship. YOu might reconsider putting more emphasis on the qualities you want in a man if you form a permanent relationship. Your criteria sounds more like you're trying to hire a model.
OP, the first piece of advice I tell my single friends when they ask me why they are still single is to "get rid of your list!" I find that a lot of women make lists while men are generally do not. You do realize that by posting a list like that, every guy on this thread will check to see if they make the cut and you are effectively insulting 99% of the guys here by indirectly declaring that they are not good enough to date you.
There is one thing on any list that trumps everything else: chemistry/compatibility
Here are 2 examples:
1) Guy #1 fits every one of your criteria, however you have no chemistry with him whatsoever
2) Guy #2 fits only 1 or 2 of your criteria, however you have fantastic chemistry with him and you are able to talk to him like noone else in your entire life
Who would you pick?
Here is another one, take a perfect guy who meets all of your criteria, say you get married and have kids and the marriage is great. Fast forward 10 years down the road. Would you be able to go back and say you would not have dated this man if he was an inch short or an inch taller? Or if he was only average looking?
You do not fall in love with a LIST, you fall in love with a WHOLE person, flaws and all.
I know I'm a bit shallow just like most of the people who are living in OC. My friends said I have high standards and I will end up single for the rest of my life. Aside from having a GREAT PERSONALITY, I WILL ONLY date guys who are:
- educated. He needs to have atleast a college degree. He has to have a great career. So far, I've only dated guys who are managers of their departments.
- tall. Nobody shorter than 5'9. Not taller than 6'2.
- physically fit. He needs to have a nice tight body. He needs to be physically active or working out regularly.
- good looking. This part is self explanatory. Cute face is mandatory. No balding head.
So far, I have no problem finding guys described above. I have actually dated a few of them. I think what I'm looking for is reasonable. I think it's what most of the girls are looking for in a guy. What do you guys think?
Maybe you'll come to realize when you love someone and when they love you, all the superficial things (that can change and will with time) will eventually fade away. And the person who treats you right and adds happiness to your life really is more important than what their credentials are and looks, all of which are external. Attributes internal, like integrity are more valuable qualities a person can possess, especially long-term.
I know I'm a bit shallow just like most of the people who are living in OC. My friends said I have high standards and I will end up single for the rest of my life. Aside from having a GREAT PERSONALITY, I WILL ONLY date guys who are:
- educated. He needs to have atleast a college degree. He has to have a great career. So far, I've only dated guys who are managers of their departments.
- tall. Nobody shorter than 5'9. Not taller than 6'2.
- physically fit. He needs to have a nice tight body. He needs to be physically active or working out regularly.
- good looking. This part is self explanatory. Cute face is mandatory. No balding head.
So far, I have no problem finding guys described above. I have actually dated a few of them. I think what I'm looking for is reasonable. I think it's what most of the girls are looking for in a guy. What do you guys think?
Not a guy, but I think you are young and haven't lived enough. I, too, had the idea that I would pick my male type and find happiness, and then I happened into the path of someone completely opposite in every way that I fell deeply in love with -- though I didn't always like him. We've been together for 27 years and I live a charmed life. I hope your charmed life finds you, too.
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