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He knows what you want. Go ahead and tell him again and then leave. Let him have time and space away from you to decide. Set your own deadline and honor it. How long will you wait for him? And don't give him sex and companionship in the mean time. Tell him you love having sex with him and you love spending time with him and that is why you want to began an official relationship. BUT you cannot go on like this. He said he needs time and space , give it to him without your presence. At your deadline, you will have your answer.
I like the above advice. And as for the deadline... give him a few days (not a week), no longer. He's had 7 months already!
It isn't clear to me what "official" status you mean. If you mean engagement, then it is far, far too soon. If you mean exclusivity as bf/gf, then it is far too late. If the former, give him another year. If the latter, dump him now - you are not the one for him.
I agree with this one^^^^^. It doesn't seem to me that you are desiring a marriage proposal just an "exclusivity" clause in your relationship. If sex was not part of your relationship than sure continue to date him but it sounds like it is. So, he has had 7 months to enjoy your company and should know by now if he wants to only date you. He is simply keeping his options open honey, which is not what you want to hear but you have to face the facts since it will be easier in the long run. The more time you spend with him the more investment you'll feel you've made, therefore, you'll feel deserving of a exclusive relationship. Resentment will then set in when he refuses you this but you'll be stubborn about making him see this, but he won't, he'll just go away since it was never his intention with you to begin with.
Honey, you are still so young and I'm sure there are many wonderful men just waiting in the wings for you if you give them a chance to truly romance you. You have to respect yourself or no one else will sweetie. So my advise is to dump him and search for a man who actually adores you and wants to make a commitment with you. Or date around just for the enjoyment of it.
I know it's hard but if you really think about it, is it the investment that you've already made in the relationship that keeps you at his heels? There is no sense in caring about someone who does not return the same amount of affection; might as well bang your head against a brick wall...you'll get similar results - as in pain with no reward.
He does not want to marry you, ever. But he doesn't want to marry anyone right now, so he is happy to be with you for a few years. When he is ready to settle down, he will break up with you and look for a wife.
If that's not what you want, I suggest you start dating other guys. You can still bang him once in a while if you feel like it, but if you want a serious relationship you need to look elsewhere.
Be upfront. Tell him what you are going to do. If you are going to date other men and look for someone to settle down with, tell him that. It's the ethical thing, and his reaction will be informative.
Yeah... 7 months in and he's not sure........IDK.... if exclusivity is what you want and after 7 months he doesn't "know" if he does or not.... it's time to give him his walking papers.
Band-aid time, don't get all wishy washy about it......
I'm at a crossroads right now. I cant decide what to do about my situation with the guy I'm seeing. We've been dating for 7 months (he's 27, I'm 23). We both know that we need to decide if we want to be officially together or not, but whenever we try to talk about it, we never arrive at a conclusion. I've made my side clear, he knows that I like him and want to be with him officially. So the ball is in his court. He tells me he likes me and his actions follow through with that, he makes time for me, he's very caring and even introduces me as his girl. But whenever we have "the talk" he says he is confused and doesn't know what we should do.
His hesitation hurts me because I really like him and I understand that he needs time to figure things out and I'm willing to give him time and space to sort his thoughts. But I also don't want to wait in this limbo forever because I feel like I am allowing myself to be strung along, and I don't want to be just an option for him. Ideally yes, I would like for him to come around and say that he wants to be with me. But I'm also aware that he might not want to be with me and in that case I would rather he let me go, than stay in this weird unofficial status.
Whether he wants to build a relationship with me or not. I just want him to make up his mind and decide!
I would really appreciate some advice on how to go about this. HOW do I confront him about it without putting him on the spot. What can I do to get him to make up his mind? I don't want him to feel pressured but I know my worth and I feel like I'm at the point where if he cant make up his mind, I'm just going to have to walk away.
Any help is greatly appreciated, especially if any of you guys out there where indecisive about a relationship. Thank you.
Dating for 7 months and you want him to commit in like marriage?
I don't get it. What's your rush?? I mean I think you want to start a fire under his butt however, you don't wanna burn his hiney. Well, it's gunna happen.
No guys like the phrase, "We need to talk."
I think you have to settle down. You don't even know him.
Dating for 7 months and you want him to commit in like marriage?
I don't get it. What's your rush?? I mean I think you want to start a fire under his butt however, you don't wanna burn his hiney. Well, it's gunna happen.
No guys like the phrase, "We need to talk."
I think you have to settle down. You don't even know him.
Sounds like she just wants him to commit as in 'exclusive relationship' i.e. boyfriend/girlfriend, not marriage.
Sounds like she just wants him to commit as in 'exclusive relationship' i.e. boyfriend/girlfriend, not marriage.
That's how I read it too. I'm also of the opinion that 7 months is a long time to not know if he wants to be more than friends with benefits, which is what it sounds like you are. Also: ultimatums typically do not result in anything good so I don't advise going that route.
That's how I read it too. I'm also of the opinion that 7 months is a long time to not know if he wants to be more than friends with benefits, which is what it sounds like you are. Also: ultimatums typically do not result in anything good so I don't advise going that route.
Here is what she needs to do....
Before the weekend rolls around she needs to say something like this to him;
"This guys asked me out today. I'm thinking about taking him up on his offer."
(Wait for his response)
"Does that bother you or should I tell him I have a boyfriend? You are my boyfriend right?"
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