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LOL. Precisely. The guy is a potential abuser methinks. OP should be glad he dumped her.
What makes you think that? Did you get some extra information privately? I don't see where he has ever touched her, threatened to get physical, broke anything, etc.
Thank you all for your answers but I'm afraid none of you got it right.
GIGO. If you were all one big collection of friends, and now you two are dating, maybe he just wants to feel he is more than just one of the pack? You may have had things planned weeks ago but that would work itself out in a few weeks unless you are continuing to plans things without him for weeks from today. Which is ok if that's what you want but you two need to talk about this and your need to spend time with friends and find a frequency that makes you both comfortable. If you can't, then you two aren't compatible.
GIGO. If you were all one big collection of friends, and now you two are dating, maybe he just wants to feel he is more than just one of the pack? You may have had things planned weeks ago but that would work itself out in a few weeks unless you are continuing to plans things without him for weeks from today. Which is ok if that's what you want but you two need to talk about this and your need to spend time with friends and find a frequency that makes you both comfortable. If you can't, then you two aren't compatible.
I never said I will plan doing things without him all the time, but these things I planned way before that, I haven't planned anything since we got together but since I planned stuff before, why is he getting upset?
This is how we met. He goes out a lot, I go out a lot. It's not about dating, we are a big group of friends who like to spend actively our free time. We go out to the cinema, theatre, camping, hiking, skydiving, horse riding, partying - there are often new people as friends bring new friends with them.
So are you two dating or not?
And if these friend outings are open to all comers, why can't he just come with you on all these events you have planned with "friends"? The tone of your posts sounds like you inform him of all these plans you have in a way that sounds like he is not invited. Why can't he join this group of friends getting together for the holiday? Why can't he buy a theater ticket and attend with you? Especially since many of them are supposedly his friends as well?
And if these friend outings are open to all comers, why can't he just come with you on all these events you have planned with "friends"? The tone of your posts sounds like you inform him of all these plans you have in a way that sounds like he is not invited. Why can't he join this group of friends getting together for the holiday? Why can't he buy a theater ticket and attend with you? Especially since many of them are supposedly his friends as well?
I DID ask him to join those events, but he got upset with me and refused.
Sounds to me like you got out in the nick of time. Had you stayed with this guy, you might have ended up in a rolled up piece of carpet on the side of the road. Not pretty. You are better off without it. Move on...
OP, he sounds controlling and manipulative - very early in this friendship-turned-relationship. You seem to recognize that this is not healthy, yet you haven't taken control of the situation.
Why do you answer his calls all the time when you know he's being irrational? Why do you rush back to meet him at the station when you never agreed to have him pick you up?
You know he's controlling, yet you are allowing him to proceed.
You say he's dumped you and that you weren't going to let this go forward, anyway. It sounds to me like this is the beginning of an unhealthy relationship and you are probably going to get back together with him.
Hate to say it, but some people do not heed the warning signs of what will be an abusive relationship.
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