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I feel like I am always thinking of a guy--either someone I'm dating, one of my exes, or a crush. It almost feels like I need to have my mind on some guy, I guess you can call that my comfort zone. I mean, when I'm not thinking about anything else in my life (school, work, family, friends, etc.), but it's like I'm obsessed with that person, even though I don't really know them or even like them that much. Anybody else have this problem? How do you get out of having to think about one person all the time? I find this screws me up to think about one person so much. It puts so much expectation on them.
I think it was because I didn't like my first bf all that much and so I really didn't think about him that much, and I felt guilty about not liking the person I was dating, so the next guy I dated, he talked about himself a lot, and I found that I would be thinking about him and his life day and night. Then after him, I felt guilty about not thinking about the guy I was currently dating all the time, so I kind of made myself obsessed with him, and that turned the whole thing into a disaster.
Now that it's been over for 4-5 months, I'm still thinking about him and being sad about the things he did to me and even thinking about the spare good moments we had. I find it really weird. I know I don't love this person, wasn't around him that much to love him, but it seems he occupies my mind all the time. It's a comfort thing, even when it makes me unhappy. It's like I need to feel like someone is with me in my mind, even when I'm alone. Or I kind of freak out if I'm not thinking of something all the time. Gah...
Had I been in the car with you as you said this I would have either asked to be dropped off or I would have jumped out!! jk
It's normal I suppose. Some people have hobbies like fishing or sports they think about constantly.
This problem that you talk about says a lot! You are a caring person. You love people and don't want to hurt people. It's all good!
There are times after a night out with friends I think back at things that were said and I wondered if I stepped on anybody's toes with my words or comments. Most often not but I still think about it.
Last nite I was on the phone with a person who is interested on dating me. But I have been in love with a man that I meet last year, only our relationship cannot be. But the heart wants what it wants.
I do this but differently. I think about the person I am with all day and night, and if we break up, I continue to think about them until I find someone new (which could take a while), but once I find someone new the old person instantly goes poof! bye bye, and I no longer think about them again and start obsessing over the new person all day and night.
THinking about any one thing constantly is not healthy for you in general. In fact thinking constantly is not healthy either, thats why meditation or yoga have so many benefits, you get to clear your mind and think of nothing at all.
THinking about any one thing constantly is not healthy for you in general. In fact thinking constantly is not healthy either, thats why meditation or yoga have so many benefits, you get to clear your mind and think of nothing at all.
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