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For some reason this has been on my mind a lot. Marriage isn't even a big deal to me, I'm not the type to fantasize about it at all, and yet here I am. Mostly I doubt my bf is prepairing to make a proposal. But these things make me wonder;
-he reacted strongly and affectionately to me wearing white one day (could just be a coincidence)
-he suddenly seems to care about making a good impression on my mom (dad's not in my life).
-he holds my hands a lot (out side, in the car, across the dinner table when we're out to eat).
-the ring I usually wear has been missing for about two weeks
-and he's the commitment/responsible type
I'm not in any hurry for either, but it would be reassuring that I'm not just going crazy here, and jumping to conclusions. For one, I don't think our lives our ready for marriage. I don't know if that matters much in a proposal? On the other hand I pretty much believed he was "the one" from the start and so did he. We've been together less than a year.
So am I crazy or what? What have your experiences been?
If you know you are not ready for marriage, why don't you drop hints? So you can save him the embarrassment if he REALLY plans a proposal?
Suggestion: Make up a friend who married somebody and say "oh, they were only together for a year. I am not sure if that is the right thing to do. I would wait AT LEAST ... years/months until I would marry anybody".
I can imagine that somebody who makes a proposal is very vulnerable at that moment and a negative answer might cause extreme insecurity/problems/whatever. So try to spare him that, if you can.
I'll clarify a bit. I'm in no real hurry for marriage. In part because I have no interest in traditional wedding ceremony's. The other reason, being that when the time comes that I might get married I want to be able to put in 50% of the work and responsibility. I don't want to burden my partner with my debt and lack of career etc. That being said, it will be long time before I'm "ready." However, I'm 100% devoted to him and would accept a proposal if one came about, it would just be a LONG engagement. Either way I feel very secure in my relationship and could live with or without either.
I'm simply annoyed that I can't get the idea out of my mind. And wondering if its logical to make these assumptions that my S.O. could be thinking in this direction. Or if I'm being dellusional. If i am being dellusional, than perhaps its more important to me than even I realize (which I find mind-boggling).
I'll clarify a bit. I'm in no real hurry for marriage. In part because I have no interest in traditional wedding ceremony's. The other reason, being that when the time comes that I might get married I want to be able to put in 50% of the work and responsibility. I don't want to burden my partner with my debt and lack of career etc. That being said, it will be long time before I'm "ready." However, I'm 100% devoted to him and would accept a proposal if one came about, it would just be a LONG engagement. Either way I feel very secure in my relationship and could live with or without either.
I'm simply annoyed that I can't get the idea out of my mind. And wondering if its logical to make these assumptions that my S.O. could be thinking in this direction. Or if I'm being dellusional. If i am being dellusional, than perhaps its more important to me than even I realize (which I find mind-boggling).
Replace the thought of marriage with something more constructive like how to get rid of your debt, obtain a career etc. So maybe you will one day be a suitable prospect for someone to consider marrying. For now, I'd say let it go and focus your energy and attention on something else, something more productive.
For some reason this has been on my mind a lot. Marriage isn't even a big deal to me, I'm not the type to fantasize about it at all, and yet here I am. Mostly I doubt my bf is prepairing to make a proposal. But these things make me wonder;
-he reacted strongly and affectionately to me wearing white one day (could just be a coincidence)
-he suddenly seems to care about making a good impression on my mom (dad's not in my life).
-he holds my hands a lot (out side, in the car, across the dinner table when we're out to eat).
-the ring I usually wear has been missing for about two weeks
-and he's the commitment/responsible type
I'm not in any hurry for either, but it would be reassuring that I'm not just going crazy here, and jumping to conclusions. For one, I don't think our lives our ready for marriage. I don't know if that matters much in a proposal? On the other hand I pretty much believed he was "the one" from the start and so did he. We've been together less than a year.
So am I crazy or what? What have your experiences been?
Cute. Very cute. I would suggest to you to think about something else but I doubt you will listen.
I'm actually very focused on trying to better my future. This was all i could think about before I met my S.O. and now he drives me with the urge to succeed even more (without any judgement or say on his part). We're both always talking about wanting to work at or improve our finacial matters to have a better future for the both of us I'm definitely plugging away at it
In the mean time of making my monthly payments and getting the help I need so I can finally finish school my mind cant help but wander off to where my achievements might take me.
like you im not totally interested in the whole ordeal of a wedding and all that. however i've only been with my boyfriend a few months and i know we both want to get married. we will say stuff like "i cant wait to spend the rest of my life with you" and we are very in love. just enjoy the moment and let him know yu're serious about being with him without pressuring for a ring or anything
Oh no..that's not my style at all. I'd rather he do so at his own free will when he feels is right. I won't even talk about that stuff with him. We've used the whole "can't wait to spend my life with you" thing a couple times, but that's it.
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