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well yes, most guys will say something like that to try and even the score. however, sometimes, the girl really does mistake a simple offer to hang out as something more than that.
abt a year ago i met a woman at a networking event. she was about 10 yrs older than me, but a really cool person overall so i asked her to meet up sometime for a drink which we did. it went well, nothing romantic, just good convo and at the end we said our goodbyes. we hung out a couple more times after that, once for a movie, another time in a group setting.
right before the 4th and last time that we met, however, there were some last minute changes to our plans and she texted me saying, "oh hopefully our 4th date will be just as much fun!" and i was like "er..." (you fill in the rest) . the whole time i thought we were hangin out as friends (bear in mind i had made no romantic gesture at all the whole time), she thought i was interested in her!
Understand. I'm a friendly person and have mostly managed to diffuse awkwardness when it comes to this. He seemed cool about it since I wasn't rude to him about it. Just gave him the facts. But ya I get what you're saying .
Back in my dating days I did the same - always tried to diffuse any awkwardness for guys I had to turn down.
I always found it went better if I gave the guy a compliment/some positive comment first before saying "no thanks".
how is that even bad? it's not even something funny enough to share..
fail thread
It would've been a lot more fun if she would've become visibly agitated and started screaming, "NO, NEVER!!" Then someone like me could've gone along to throw popcorn
well yes, most guys will say something like that to try and even the score. however, sometimes, the girl really does mistake a simple offer to hang out as something more than that.
abt a year ago i met a woman at a networking event. she was about 10 yrs older than me, but a really cool person overall so i asked her to meet up sometime for a drink which we did. it went well, nothing romantic, just good convo and at the end we said our goodbyes. we hung out a couple more times after that, once for a movie, another time in a group setting.
right before the 4th and last time that we met, however, there were some last minute changes to our plans and she texted me saying, "oh hopefully our 4th date will be just as much fun!" and i was like "er..." (you fill in the rest) . the whole time i thought we were hangin out as friends (bear in mind i had made no romantic gesture at all the whole time), she thought i was interested in her!
so you see, it really does go both ways!
see..I always assume they just are trying to be friends and then I wonder why some guy put the moves on me. I'm very oblivious. I really thought this guy was being friendly. and maybe he was. but I've heard that response before. In your situation, I would have assumed you were going for friends..although the drink thing would make me skeptical but you made yourself clear after all your outings that it was just friendly so she clearly misread you.
LM-ya if the guy is nice, I definitely do that. If I think he's a jerk...ya I won't care so much.
As a woman you can't win when it comes to trying to tell if a guy is just being friendly or something more. If you always assume it's friendly, some guys get pissed. If you always assume it's something more, other guys get pissed. If I don't get any signs from his body language, I always assume it's just friendly too. Online is just a complete mindf*ck, which is why I avoid it. lol
As a woman you ALWAYS have to assume is something more. Always.
You will be right.
agreed.
even tho the woman i mentioned in my prior post misread me, most guys (myself included) will usually only ask someone out that they're actually romantically interested in. purely platonic gestures to women from men are the exception and not the norm.
even tho the woman i mentioned in my prior post misread me, most guys (myself included) will usually only ask someone out that they're actually romantically interested in. purely platonic gestures to women from men are the exception and not the norm.
next there will be 100 guys saying that they do the exception.
I'd rather have a woman tell me straight out to ***k off then "let's be friends" or something else she cooks up to tame the fire.
I handle it better that way.
Fire lol
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. the whole time i thought we were hangin out as friends (bear in mind i had made no romantic gesture at all the whole time), she thought i was interested in her!
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