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I have noticed that when you suggest that a person lower his/her standards to find a mate, people dont take too kindly to that. I see it online all of the time, but here is a recent IRL example so that I don't seem like I am picking on someone here:
Male friend (very attractive, 50, broke): I don't know what it is, I just keep striking out with women. I used to be able to get all the girls in their 20s that I wanted, now I can't even do well in a room of women in their 30s.
Me: Sounds like you have aged out of your desires. It happens to everyone eventually, unless of course you are filthy rich. Time to lower your standards if you want someone.
Male friend: No way, I am not going to lower my standards!
It seems to me, if you have a certain idea of the type of person you must be with (your standards), but you strike out with them every single time, your standards are out of wack. But no one wants to hear it. Why is that? Is it pride? Ego? Is it difficult to admit that you aren't as awesome as you think you are, so instead you walk around thinking you deserve the very best?
Yup. Pretty much.
I'm not a fan of lowering standards, myself, if you have it together. Examine the dating pool you're swimming in or your approach before adjusting those standards. Too many people have low expectations for themselves and want company. If you can command better, do it.
Eh, I think my standards are already as low as they could possibly go
Let people have their standards, even if they're ridiculously out of touch with what they could seriously get...I mean, they're the ones who will suffer for it.
"Well, if you're not having luck with your usual type, maybe try another type. Broaden your horizons a bit. Variety is the spice of life. And you never know. You might be surprised."
How does a 50 year old even have anything in common with someone in their 20s?
Hell, I'm 25 and turned off by 21 year olds..
Really, I only used that as as an example. You can change the story to a 40 year old never married woman who is holding out for a 6' investment banker. We have plenty of those here in NYC.
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