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I have a female acquaintance who cheated on her BF three times (or at least got caught 3 times). They broke up briefly and got back together. He felt that the her infidelities did not bother him as much as he believed they would (he is a VERY self-confident man with high self-esteem). She feels she cannot live without him (so her esteem is pretty much nonexistent).
She said the reason she cheated was because she was feeling neglected emotionally and in terms of attention -- even though they are together every day. She says she knows he loves her because he stayed, however, she suspects he may be thinking of cheating on her because he once wondered aloud whether sleeping with one or more other women would have “balanced the books.”
His “balancing the books” comment suggests he is very hurt and angry with her for what she did, and/or himself for staying with her. I can understand his sentiment but am not convinced cheating on her as revenge will make things right.
I have a female acquaintance who cheated on her BF three times (or at least got caught 3 times). They broke up briefly and got back together. He felt that the her infidelities did not bother him as much as he believed they would (he is a VERY self-confident man with high self-esteem). She feels she cannot live without him (so her esteem is pretty much nonexistent).
She said the reason she cheated was because she was feeling neglected emotionally and in terms of attention -- even though they are together every day. She says she knows he loves her because he stayed, however, she suspects he may be thinking of cheating on her because he once wondered aloud whether sleeping with one or more other women would have “balanced the books.”
His “balancing the books” comment suggests he is very hurt and angry with her for what she did, and/or himself for staying with her. I can understand his sentiment but am not convinced cheating on her as revenge will make things right.
Any thoughts?
He should sleep with her sister or best friend, then the books will be balanced.
If she cheated 3+ times, then there is something wrong with her or the relationship. If he is staying, but thinking about revenge cheating, then there is something wrong with him. If he is staying (as someone mentioned) until he can find someone better, then he isn't the confident man that the OP says he is.
I have a female acquaintance who cheated on her BF three times (or at least got caught 3 times). They broke up briefly and got back together. He felt that the her infidelities did not bother him as much as he believed they would (he is a VERY self-confident man with high self-esteem). She feels she cannot live without him (so her esteem is pretty much nonexistent).
She said the reason she cheated was because she was feeling neglected emotionally and in terms of attention -- even though they are together every day. She says she knows he loves her because he stayed, however, she suspects he may be thinking of cheating on her because he once wondered aloud whether sleeping with one or more other women would have “balanced the books.”
His “balancing the books” comment suggests he is very hurt and angry with her for what she did, and/or himself for staying with her. I can understand his sentiment but am not convinced cheating on her as revenge will make things right.
I have a female acquaintance who cheated on her BF three times (or at least got caught 3 times). They broke up briefly and got back together. He felt that the her infidelities did not bother him as much as he believed they would (he is a VERY self-confident man with high self-esteem). She feels she cannot live without him (so her esteem is pretty much nonexistent).
She said the reason she cheated was because she was feeling neglected emotionally and in terms of attention -- even though they are together every day. She says she knows he loves her because he stayed, however, she suspects he may be thinking of cheating on her because he once wondered aloud whether sleeping with one or more other women would have “balanced the books.”
His “balancing the books” comment suggests he is very hurt and angry with her for what she did, and/or himself for staying with her. I can understand his sentiment but am not convinced cheating on her as revenge will make things right.
Any thoughts?
These two should do each other a favor by breaking up already. This is such a toxic bond/relationship.
People cheat because of unmet emotional needs. They can no longer form a life-affirming relationship with each other.
Relationship like this is almost like murder-suicide.
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