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Old 11-01-2007, 09:55 AM
 
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I have noticed this alot. The men who don't try to act like bad boys tend to be single longer than men who do live up to that "manly man" status. Every case is different, but what I have seen is unless the guy has alot of money or fits some certain physical trait, there is a high likelihood of being single.
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Old 11-01-2007, 09:57 AM
 
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I think it's because the men who don't act like bad boys have more sense than the "manly men" have.
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Old 11-01-2007, 10:57 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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Bad boys get their girlfriends pregnant and then have to marry them??
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Old 11-01-2007, 12:04 PM
 
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Bad boys get their girlfriends pregnant and then have to marry them??
no they leave their pregnant women to go impregnate some other dumb broad.
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Old 11-01-2007, 12:52 PM
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What about women being more attracted to bad boys, wanting to marry them and change them for the better? Nice guys are perceived as being less exciting than bad boys, so the (foolish) women aren't as attracted to them. Nice guys aren't as aggressive about dating either.

My current boyfriend is a really nice guy and I love him very much. When I met him, he didn't have a girlfriend, but he wasn't looking for one either.
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Old 11-01-2007, 01:48 PM
 
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What about women being more attracted to bad boys, wanting to marry them and change them for the better? Nice guys are perceived as being less exciting than bad boys, so the (foolish) women aren't as attracted to them. Nice guys aren't as aggressive about dating either.

My current boyfriend is a really nice guy and I love him very much. When I met him, he didn't have a girlfriend, but he wasn't looking for one either.
I'd say that's pretty close to the answer.

This is the typical, why do "nice" guys fail? The general answer is that "nice" guys typically show a lack of confidence (whether they realize it or not). They constantly question everything they do, they don't "take charge" and are always looking for reassurance from the people around them.

Nor are nice guys decisive; be a leader, know what you want and make a decision instead of pining over it for 5 minutes. And if you don't know the best decision after 10 seconds of thought, pick one. If it's the wrong one, tough, you'll have learned for next time. But in the mean time, you at least made a decision and committed to it.

Nice guys also typically don't take initiative either. They always wait for the "perfect" opportunity, when there is really no such thing. Opportunities rarely occur on their own, you have to make them happen.
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Old 11-01-2007, 01:54 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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I'd say that's pretty close to the answer.

This is the typical, why do "nice" guys fail? The general answer is that "nice" guys typically show a lack of confidence (whether they realize it or not). They constantly question everything they do, they don't "take charge" and are always looking for reassurance from the people around them.

Nor are nice guys decisive; be a leader, know what you want and make a decision instead of pining over it for 5 minutes. And if you don't know the best decision after 10 seconds of thought, pick one. If it's the wrong one, tough, you'll have learned for next time. But in the mean time, you at least made a decision and committed to it.

Nice guys also typically don't take initiative either. They always wait for the "perfect" opportunity, when there is really no such thing. Opportunities rarely occur on their own, you have to make them happen.
hmmm... I think we need to define bad and nice.
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Old 11-01-2007, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Mayberry
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hmmm... I think we need to define bad and nice.
I agree with that. What makes a guy a bad boy? What makes him a nice guy? Is a guy who rides a Harley or chopper automatically a bad boy? Not necessarily. Is a guy who is polite and uses manners automatically a nice guy? No. So what is a nice guy? What is a bad boy/man?
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Old 11-01-2007, 03:18 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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A bad boy to me would be self centered and not considerate of other people. He'll "forget" about a date or not call a girl for days or weeks. He might always need to borrow money. He tends to be a victim of hard luck stories and it's never his fault. He's a charmer like a car salesman, and knows how to sweet talk a woman when he wants something.

A nice guy is responsible, considerate and punctual. He wants his date to choose the restaurant or the movie. He buys her flowers. He always has a job, maybe not management, but still a good employee. He is not a risk taker.
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Old 11-01-2007, 03:18 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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I am a nice bad boy!
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