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If it involves dating, do some still go all the way to having a long conversation with the father (or any close relative she has) and ask for permission?
And if he is about to propose to her, do some still ask for her father's (or other relatives) permission?
Honestly, I would find this annoying. I'm already 26 years old and definitely wouldn't need my father's approval to date or get engaged. The only person he should be asking is me. Then maybe he can inform my parents the news but not to ask for their permission.
Overall, no it would not pleased me too much. Now I heard this tradition still happens in certain places and even within hispanic families. Then again, I'm an americanized latina. I just find this very awkward.
Yeh...some do..not because they need your fathers approval (not anymore anyways), but just as a show of respect and gratitude to the father, for having brought up such a beautiful daughter.
A couple of 21 year olds I know just got engaged, they have been living together since they started college, but he asked her dad for his blessing to propose. I thought that was sweet.
If it involves dating, do some still go all the way to having a long conversation with the father (or any close relative she has) and ask for permission?
And if he is about to propose to her, do some still ask for her father's (or other relatives) permission?
Honestly, I would find this annoying. I'm already 26 years old and definitely wouldn't need my father's approval to date or get engaged. The only person he should be asking is me. Then maybe he can inform my parents the news but not to ask for their permission.
Overall, no it would not pleased me too much. Now I heard this tradition still happens in certain places and even within hispanic families. Then again, I'm an americanized latina. I just find this very awkward.
Yes, absolutely It's not a "permission" thing. It's a sign of respect.
Why do so many people have such problems with respect these days?
If I know she is close to her parents or she values one of her parents, I would ask them.
If they said no, I would tell them I'm proposing to her anyway. I realize that I have to respect her parents, but if she makes me happy, I'm not going to care what they have to say and tell them I'm going to still do it, so it's more like a notification.
Yes, absolutely It's not a "permission" thing. It's a sign of respect.
I know but it would kind of annoy me that he spoke to my father first instead of with me.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
Why do so many people have such problems with respect these days?
It's because I'm a person capable of making my own decisions and don't really need this whole elaboration (I'm not a little girl getitng taking away but a grown woman choosing who I want to be with). At this age it would make me feel like a child.
But ok if he were to insist on this fine but it would make me feel uncomfortable.
It's a sign of respect. It is usually important to the wife that her family be accepting of her mate. Starting out on the right foot is a good way to have a happy wife and a happy life.
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