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Old 06-19-2013, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Gaston, South Carolina
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Bisexual men tend to end up with men, not women, so that right there is going to give some women pause. I'm a staunch supporter of GLBT rights, myself. That doesn't mean I want to date a bi guy. It just means I think he should have the same legal rights as hetero males and not be discriminated against or hated for his sexuality.

Also, I think lying about your sexuality in order to deceive women into dating you is reprehensible. Shame on you.
This post made me wonder if the OP ever lied to his boyfriends about being bisexual. My take is to be who you are, but not to lie about it either. A poster made the comment about dating a blonde but also being attracted to brunettes. That analogy holds no water as bisexuality is a whole different ballgame. Prospective partners need to know that about the OP, no matter if he's with a man or a woman at the time.

 
Old 06-19-2013, 08:47 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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As I said before, there is no such thing as bisexual. When a guy says he is bisexual, it means he is GAY (in my book anyway). The reason he says he is bisexual is maybe to use the woman as a 'front', meaning to appear normal in front of his coworkers or family and to take this woman to family or work events to blend in a given circle. So when it is convenient to him, he will appear at his work Christmas party with a woman so his coworkers think he is a normal dude but when he is away from work or family events, he is with his gay pals.

In my experience, their friends and relatives were aware they were bisexual. They weren't in the closet. I never met any coworkers. You're making stuff up. You've never dated or been aware when you've met a gay man.


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So it is easy to spot a gay guy from miles away. One by the way they walk, which is too funny since their *******s are over-stretched. The second way is by the way they smell. Gay guys have a very distinct smell and has nothing to do with a cologne they wear to cover up the stench. Remember, their thing goes in places where human waste (feces, diarrhea) comes through. YUCK!!!
You've never changed a diaper? Your arse doesn't smell? Are you saying you don't bathe? Heterosexual couples participate in anal sex. They walk straight just fine and so do gay men. You're talking out of your arse. You clearly do not know anything about this. Would you stop making **** up? I'm embarrassed for you.


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True. However, from the get-go, you WILL know there is something odd about them during your many interactions, which will force you to observe them closely, at which point what you thought was not obvious slowly will show up. So you have to take your time and observe. Like the saying goes, 'what goes on in the dark will eventually come out to light'. You just need to be patient with them and remove your blinders.
I've heard too many women say they "know" when a man is gay. That they have a "gaydar". But I've seen these same women be wrong. It's all in your head. Most are honest and not in the closet and will TELL YOU. You don't need a gaydar. They aren't liars.
 
Old 06-19-2013, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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Dumb topic - everyone here is rationalizing their serial debauched way of living. What ever happened to tenderness and love and normal? Yes NORMAL- what's wrong with just being a healthy human being instead of some ungrateful thrill seeking freak who is bored of normal and seeks extremes?
 
Old 06-19-2013, 09:13 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Dumb topic - everyone here is rationalizing their serial debauched way of living. What ever happened to tenderness and love and normal? Yes NORMAL- what's wrong with just being a healthy human being instead of some ungrateful thrill seeking freak who is bored of normal and seeks extremes?
We have nothing against heterosexual relationships. I've been married and monogamous for 10 years now. There's nothing wrong with my preferences. We like what we like and we aren't ashamed of it.
 
Old 06-19-2013, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Dumb topic - everyone here is rationalizing their serial debauched way of living. What ever happened to tenderness and love and normal? Yes NORMAL- what's wrong with just being a healthy human being instead of some ungrateful thrill seeking freak who is bored of normal and seeks extremes?
 
Old 06-19-2013, 09:45 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Dumb topic - everyone here is rationalizing their serial debauched way of living. What ever happened to tenderness and love and normal? Yes NORMAL- what's wrong with just being a healthy human being instead of some ungrateful thrill seeking freak who is bored of normal and seeks extremes?
Yeah, what happened to tenderness and love and normal?

what happened to accepting, understanding, and being open minded? What happened to any of those?



Let gays be gays, Gay means happy.
 
Old 06-19-2013, 10:31 AM
 
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a woman can't compete with another man (ie: a penis), so there is no way she can enable her specialness, with a bi BF.

that seems to be the belief, based on previous thread such as this
 
Old 06-19-2013, 10:47 AM
 
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This post made me wonder if the OP ever lied to his boyfriends about being bisexual. My take is to be who you are, but not to lie about it either.
I never lied but it isn't that big of a deal. I would say most gay guys are really bisexual but prefer the strength of a man as it relates to pleasure among other things. Speaking from experience that is.

As far as the "heteros do anal too" thing, please. The VAST majority of women want absolutely nothing to do with it and will think you are a closet homo if you keep asking for it. Porno =\= real life. On the other hand with the vast majority of gay men it is part of their identity... top/bottom/versatile. It amuses me when straight people on the Internet try to define everything.
 
Old 06-19-2013, 11:37 AM
 
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I am very open minded. However, I still wouldn't date a bisexual man (once I found out he was bisexual). I just wouldn't be able to get past the thought of him having sex with another man. It just creeps me out. I want the man I am dating and having sex with to be into women...ONLY!!! Please don't get offended. I am sure there has got to be other women who have no problem with it. But I am not one of them.
LMAO @ women who say this: News flash, ALL WOMEN are like this...women ARENT open minded when it comes to male sexuality. Im not saying that to be offensive to you, and I hate for this post to take such a grating tone, when I actually am not trying to single you out, or offend you, but its just the truth...there isnt much difference between you and every other woman out there... Women talk all this sexual liberation and sexual freedom noise, but what they dont say is that they never sought for that to be a two way street entirely. They just meant that they wanted to destigmatize the whoredom that they were chastised for, while men were harolded for the doing same, and they want control over their body regarding birthing decisions. They never truly wanted to equally destigmatize bisexuality for men the way its destigmatized for women - not en masse anyway. Thats too much equality..lol

I cant even say I blame them either. Ive heard from enough women, both those close to me, and those I dont even know, to conclude beyond a shadow of a doubt that all that openminded jazz is just lip service when it comes to bisexuality among men. They'll tolerate it as long as its not THEIR man. Women who want men, want men who love women in their entirety. And you cant love one thing entirely, if you think the alternative is better at times.

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Old 06-19-2013, 11:43 AM
 
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I've heard too many women say they "know" when a man is gay. That they have a "gaydar". But I've seen these same women be wrong. It's all in your head. Most are honest and not in the closet and will TELL YOU. You don't need a gaydar. They aren't liars.
This is too true...Ive seen so many people (men and women) wind up looking stupid as hell trying to do all that guesswork based on "gaydar". This one dude at work was sitting around talking about how he can tell that this other guy at work is gay, and how he's just trying to hide it, and all this. And then, come to find out, the guy he thinks is gay, has a wife and kids, and he just happens to be a nice, intelligent dude who doesnt walk around grunting all day. AND: The dude who prides himself on his gaydar, is thought to be gay himself by some people in our building AND: His own girlfriend thinks he's gay [he told me that one himself.].

Im thinking, I dont know if your gaydar needs a new battery cable or what, but you're not looking too good yourself right now partner.
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