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In that case, this is probably the kindest thing to do.
In fact, in almost any woman's case, this is probably the kindest thing to do.
If you literally find it impossible to smile politely and say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested," then ignoring is your second best option.
I'm sorry, I don't bother with calculating the kindness factor. So yes it is impossible because I'm trying to let them down kindly when in essence that just isn't my style. I'm not trying to actively hurt their feelings. I don't want to always have to think in the back of my mind "Will she get mad". Nowadays, anybody will snap over anything. I just say what is on my mind. It hasn't steered me wrong thus far.
I'm sorry, I don't bother with calculating the kindness factor. So yes it is impossible because I'm trying to let them down kindly when in essence that just isn't my style. I'm not trying to actively hurt their feelings. I don't want to always have to think in the back of my mind "Will she get mad". Nowadays, anybody will snap over anything. I just say what is on my mind. It hasn't steered me wrong thus far.
I'm sorry, I don't bother with calculating the kindness factor. So yes it is impossible because I'm trying to let them down kindly when in essence that just isn't my style. I'm not trying to actively hurt their feelings. I don't want to always have to think in the back of my mind "Will she get mad". Nowadays, anybody will snap over anything. I just say what is on my mind. It hasn't steered me wrong thus far.
Well not only that she may not take it well and badly hurt her feelings, she may actually hate you for being too direct to yell in vengence "" and you get to possibly visit the slammer.
And yes even I like to be straight, direct and blunt but not to hurt peoples feelings of something they didn't in this scenario do to hurt anyone.
I'm sorry, I don't bother with calculating the kindness factor. So yes it is impossible because I'm trying to let them down kindly when in essence that just isn't my style. I'm not trying to actively hurt their feelings. I don't want to always have to think in the back of my mind "Will she get mad". Nowadays, anybody will snap over anything. I just say what is on my mind. It hasn't steered me wrong thus far.
I think it is polite to just say something generic like "I have a girlfriend" or "I have a lot of work to do" or even "Thanks, but I'm not interested". There is no reason to be mean about it when turning down someone. This goes for women too turning down men.
Now, if they specifically asked for your advice about how to improve their dating prospects, then you can be honest with them. Telling them that they are a special snowflake who doesn't have to change anything for anyone isn't going to help them at all. In this case, I would mention that they are overweight and need to improve their diet, and that they should go to the gym to lift weights and do cardio.
I think it is polite to just say something generic like "I have a girlfriend" or "I have a lot of work to do" or even "Thanks, but I'm not interested". There is no reason to be mean about it when turning down someone. This goes for women too turning down men.
Now, if they specifically asked for your advice about how to improve their dating prospects, then you can be honest with them. (snip)
Exactly. She's not asking for a all-inclusive life's assessment. She's just asking for a yes or a no.
I think it is polite to just say something generic like "I have a girlfriend" or "I have a lot of work to do" or even "Thanks, but I'm not interested". There is no reason to be mean about it when turning down someone. This goes for women too turning down men.
Now, if they specifically asked for your advice about how to improve their dating prospects, then you can be honest with them. Telling them that they are a special snowflake who doesn't have to change anything for anyone isn't going to help them at all. In this case, I would mention that they are overweight and need to improve their diet, and that they should go to the gym to lift weights and do cardio.
Again, I'm not one for political correctness. I prefer to just turn my back on them and ignore them.
girl: would you like to go out with me? me: no girl: why not?!? me: because i am not interested in you romantically
case closed.
it doesn't need to be a in depth analysis of why it cant be for you. your intent and reason was stated, that's all that is needed to move on.
Again, I'm not one for political correctness. I prefer to just turn my back on them and ignore them.
I think you seriously need a hug. And maybe a cookie. (backing away) Well, anyway, here's a cookie.
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" and you get to possibly visit the slammer.
