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So I have been into to this guy for past 3 months, he even told me he had feelings for me (I too have feelings for him but he was in fact the first one to tell me) and recently he stopped texting me or calling me. I tried my best to give him his space not to push him to get to the commitment talk or anything but it's kind of getting on my nerves now. I texted him today and he read it but never replied back.
He recently quit his part time job and is focusing on getting a full time job, I understand the fact that when you are unhappy yourself, you can't keep everyone around you happy either but still as a girl I always tend to think that it doesn't take one second to text or call the person you like if you don't get time to meet or hang out. We used to discuss all kinds of things including his problems so he had opened up to me. He was the one who asked me to brainwash him so he gets on track to get a job. I did brainwash him and voila, it was after that he started distancing himself. But I was not mean or anything, I only told him why and how he can be focused and what will happen if he doesn't remain focused. I don't think I did anything wrong plus he asked me to do it.
Am I expecting a lot or he is just being a jerk? It's been about two weeks we haven't spoken at all. We didn't even have a fight or anything, I did ask him if he was mad at me for something I did and he said no. He said he's busy and so am I (I had exams going on at that time) but wtf is this behavior?
I fail to understand guys behavior at times, its more complicated than girls!
I have a great internship starting up soon so I am focusing my mind on that, but how long should I wait to hear from him? I hate when I start liking someone and then they just act whatever.
If he doesn't have a job, maybe he is ashamed that he doesn't. Even with the economy being the way it is, us men have it ingrained in us that if we don't have a job or some other way to support ourselves, we shouldn't bother...
Maybe if you let him know that you accept him, he might be a little more open to you.
Us men take unemployment hard. We tend to think everyone is judging us. (I know, speak for myself.)
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So I have been into to this guy for past 3 months, he even told me he had feelings for me (I too have feelings for him but he was in fact the first one to tell me) and recently he stopped texting me or calling me. I tried my best to give him his space not to push him to get to the commitment talk or anything but it's kind of getting on my nerves now. I texted him today and he read it but never replied back.
He recently quit his part time job and is focusing on getting a full time job, I understand the fact that when you are unhappy yourself, you can't keep everyone around you happy either but still as a girl I always tend to think that it doesn't take one second to text or call the person you like if you don't get time to meet or hang out. Weused to discuss all kinds of things including his problems so he had opened up to me. He was the one who asked me to brainwash him so he gets on track to get a job. I did brainwash him and voila, it was after that he started distancing himself. But I was not mean or anything, I only told him why and how he can be focused and what will happen if he doesn't remain focused. I don't think I did anything wrong plus he asked me to do it.
Am I expecting a lot or he is just being a jerk? It's been about two weeks we haven't spoken at all. We didn't even have a fight or anything, I did ask him if he was mad at me for something I did and he said no. He said he's busy and so am I (I had exams going on at that time) but wtf is this behavior?
I fail to understand guys behavior at times, its more complicated than girls!
I have a great internship starting up soon so I am focusing my mind on that, but how long should I wait to hear from him? I hate when I start liking someone and then they just act whatever.
He doesn't care about you. Move on. If a man wants a woman, he'll do things that shows that he wants the woman. If he doesn't, he does exactly what your guy did. Men chase women. It's what we do. You're not being chased. So, move on to the next hunter. Having or not having a job won't make him not call you or respond to a text.
But really, if a guy likes you he's going to stay in touch. I've never believed in the whole 'I'm not ready' or 'I'm too busy' BS that people spout. If you like someone, you make room in your life for them period. If you're 'meh' about them, you make excuses.
If he doesn't have a job, maybe he is ashamed that he doesn't. Even with the economy being the way it is, us men have it ingrained in us that if we don't have a job or some other way to support ourselves, we shouldn't bother...
Maybe if you let him know that you accept him, he might be a little more open to you.
Us men take unemployment hard. We tend to think everyone is judging us. (I know, speak for myself.)
There is a shame we carry when we're unemployed.
He was unhappy with his job and we discussed pros and cons throughout before he quit it. I did tell him that he would rather be home than being miserable at work. So given that, I guess I was pretty clear to him that I still like him. Whenever he approached me, I was always supportive. I did one of his assignments in fact because I knew how to do it.
He always told me I am his inspiration blah blah and now this. I am not going to finish his sentences if he ever talks to me because I want to hear him out but I lack patience until then haha.
But really, if a guy likes you he's going to stay in touch. I've never believed in the whole 'I'm not ready' or 'I'm too busy' BS that people spout. If you like someone, you make room in your life for them period. If you're 'meh' about them, you make excuses.
I agree with you there! I don't know if he found another woman (He always complained because he lives in a small town with ugly women, I live in the city but WHO KNOWS) Honestly I stop my attention after a while. I have too much self respect
He doesn't care about you. Move on. If a man wants a woman, he'll do things that shows that he wants the woman. If he doesn't, he does exactly what your guy did. Men chase women. It's what we do. You're not being chased. So, move on to the next hunter. Having or not having a job won't make him not call you or respond to a text.
I fail to understand the extremely opposite behavior, we spoke everyday, hung out A LOT. But whatever, I can't waste time with this guy. If he talks, I'll listen and judge if his reasons are even excusable.
Even I am worried about getting a job but I don't ignore people.
It's never a good idea to act like a guy's mother--even if he asks you to behave that way. At some point he'll resent it or you'll get tired of it. Ambition has to come from within.
It's never a good idea to act like a guy's mother--even if he asks you to behave that way. At some point he'll resent it or you'll get tired of it. Ambition has to come from within.
haha exactly! I told him I don't like to babysit people a lot on such topics, I wonder if that's the reason he stopped talking
He's just not that into you. If he were, he'd talk to you. Guys are pretty basic that way.
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