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Old 05-20-2013, 05:01 PM
 
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I took a break from online dating. But besides men I met there and men I've known from before, I have had men around me. Lately, I have attracted the biggest players around- no joke. It is possible there are a lot of players out there and so they need to approach a lot of women (I am not going anywhere new by the way) , or maybe I couldn't spot them before but all of a sudden they are all around. Any guesses as to why? I come off as innocent but I am quite smart and am not an "easy" girl, so really I'm not at all what they're really looking for. Has this happened to anyone else? What is going on? Or is it just coincidence? (3 so far this month . . .)
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:11 PM
 
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How are you defining "player"?
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:15 PM
 
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If you live in the north, it may be caused by the weather finally warming up. The dogs are coming outside to play after a long cold winter.
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:27 PM
 
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You're a challenge.

Players will play different women, but they will also have a few that are a bit more difficult to get. Once they get them, they'll feel accomplished and move on.
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:40 PM
 
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You're a challenge.

Players will play different women, but they will also have a few that are a bit more difficult to get. Once they get them, they'll feel accomplished and move on.
Define 'get'...

But yeah, women who fall easily hardly ever get far. I mean, if I've texted you once, called you, and I'm already looking at a first date, I'm probably cancelling and going out to a bar.

Then there are the ones who you can talk to, hang out with, think about...for months, and they'll still just be 'I like you, but not like that...', and that's when you start digging in your heals. It's like 'how can she not like me?' combined with 'why would she like me?'....

Nothing better/worse than a stubborn girl.
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:51 PM
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I think with the popularity of online dating there are an abundance of men that think they are Players. Now, in addition to the standard suave confident player types there are ugly awkward wanna be unsuccessful players.. I've seen a couple of them in action trying to approach friends of mine and it is Ugly
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Old 05-20-2013, 05:58 PM
 
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Define 'get'...

But yeah, women who fall easily hardly ever get far. I mean, if I've texted you once, called you, and I'm already looking at a first date, I'm probably cancelling and going out to a bar.

Then there are the ones who you can talk to, hang out with, think about...for months, and they'll still just be 'I like you, but not like that...', and that's when you start digging in your heals. It's like 'how can she not like me?' combined with 'why would she like me?'....

Nothing better/worse than a stubborn girl.
Oif. I'm glad I'm in a relationship. Dating is too much work.
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Old 05-20-2013, 07:06 PM
 
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Define 'get'...

But yeah, women who fall easily hardly ever get far. I mean, if I've texted you once, called you, and I'm already looking at a first date, I'm probably cancelling and going out to a bar.

Then there are the ones who you can talk to, hang out with, think about...for months, and they'll still just be 'I like you, but not like that...', and that's when you start digging in your heals. It's like 'how can she not like me?' combined with 'why would she like me?'....

Nothing better/worse than a stubborn girl.
Have sex with, win over, have them develop feelings only to reject them.

I think 'players' are nothing more than manipulators and they get off on messing with people. Women are unfortunately easy targets for many of them.

As for the stubborn girl, once she changes her mind and decides to give you a chance I can all but guarantee you'd become disinterested. You like the chase...just like most players.
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Old 05-20-2013, 07:26 PM
 
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lol..I attract a lot of players too..I am pretty good at rejecting the obvious ones, but the "quiet" ones are the sneakiest kind. Some guys like the thrill of the chase of pursuing a girl who was initially disinterested.Then as soon as she develops feelings, he will act indifferent and pull away. I find that most of these men are insecure and narcissistic with some psychopathic traits. Some times its for their own entertainment or to past time. I think they tend to look for highly successful, attractive, quiet, and/or shy girls because what's better than bringing someone of "high quality" down to their level. These type of men only use manipulation because they don't have the social skills to attract and keep women interested in them long term once the mask falls off.
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Old 05-20-2013, 07:36 PM
 
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They're not players, they just crush a lot.
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