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I'm willing to bet my life that your crappy ex didn't wait 8 months to bang. He definitely didn't spend anywhere near the resources this guy spent either to get laid
Wow... My crappy ex and I dated each other locally, it wasn't long distance and if I knew then what I knew now I would have waited before I had sex with him. Is it really that awful to want to get to know someone before you sleep with them??
Just say it like you did here .
'I like you a lot and am attracted to you, but I am anxious about this visit because I don't feel like we know each other well enough for sex yet, and I'm worrying that we might have some crossed signals about that.'
He's not going to cancel the trip, unless he is a total cad (in which case it's good to be rid of him).
I think he cares about you, and likes you a lot. That means he won't WANT to have sex with you before you are ready, because, eww! He wants it to be when you want him just as much as he wants you.
Plus he might be relieved because he is not ready either, and has the same worry .
I'm willing to bet my life that your crappy ex didn't wait 8 months to bang. He definitely didn't spend anywhere near the resources this guy spent either to get laid
My goodness. You have gotten to know the guy for 4.5 months and you still want to take things slowly? He's going above and beyond what most guys would do. I guess you're really not into him.
She is a mom and that is important. She can do what she wants.
He likes her, and he wants to sleep with her. Not hard to understand. If he's attractive, he could sleep with lots of girls. I doubt the purpose of the trip is SOLELY to have sex.
My goodness. You have gotten to know the guy for 4.5 months and you still want to take things slowly? He's going above and beyond what most guys would do. I guess you're really not into him.
She has known him for 8 months, yet she still isn't sure if she ever wants to have sex with. She's simply not attracted to him. Women never wait 8 months for a guy they really like.
She has known him for 8 months, yet she still isn't sure if she ever wants to have sex with. She's simply not attracted to him. Women never wait 8 months for a guy they really like.
I'm very attracted to him but I'm shy and undressing and having sex IS a big deal to me. I was with my ex for 8 years before we broke up, but he is the only guy I've ever been with. It's definitely difficult to think of putting myself in such a vulnerable position. And we've known each other for 8 months but we have not seen each other since January... So the majority of our relationship has NOT been in person. That is why I'm waiting--because I'm not comfortable with that yet since we have not seen each other in a while, it has nothing to do with not being attracted to him.
Poor Capitol and Rance have clearly never had sex with a woman who wanted to be there. They don't even realise they are missing anything. They are still virgins, in all but the most technical sense.
Actually I have two children of my own and am quite happily married. So yes...I'm no virgin. Including the technical sense.
Has the guy clearly stated he wants to have sex? No he has not. At least OP didn't say he has. You and her are turning this whole thing into a dramatic soap opera for nothing.
Maybe he doesn't want to have sex at all. Maybe he really likes her and thats why he's even still around.
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