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This is going to sound weird, maybe a little trollish, but it's the truth and I am genuinely concerned that this won't end well.
I have a female friend whose biological clock is ticking (she's 38) and she is aggressively seeking a man (online dating, speed-dating, etc.) for marriage and kids, and she won't be choosy.
But I know her too well, she spends most Sundays sleeping the day away. She reports to work everyday but is on notice for poor performance. Despite being fit and petite she is a low energy person who just doesn't do much, ever.
Yet having kids is at the top of her priorities, nothing else is close. So do women sometimes get motivated after having a kid? If she digs deep and gets the child care done, will she resent the child for making her work so hard?
Kids might change her attitude. Her "laziness" and lack of energy might be related to a mild depression. When she finds the suitable mate, she might turn to a positive energy bundle
There are no real direct answers to your question.
She may not change at all. In that case, she will be seeking someone to entertain and raise her kids, even during her "off" time.
Or, because she has a desire for it, she may find the motivation and effort to really work hard at being a mother, even if she is not motivated in other areas of her life.
I would be more concerned about what sounds to be a careless and reckless search for a life-partner in which to "marry" and have kids with.
Well if she sleeps the day away now she is doing so simply because she can...that honestly sounds like heaven to me.
Sounds to me like you are really overthinking things.
OP, are these just your private thoughts, or are you thinking of intervening in some way. I'd stay out of it, especially since she doesn't have a partner yet.
This is going to sound weird, maybe a little trollish, but it's the truth and I am genuinely concerned that this won't end well.
I have a female friend whose biological clock is ticking (she's 38) and she is aggressively seeking a man (online dating, speed-dating, etc.) for marriage and kids, and she won't be choosy.
But I know her too well, she spends most Sundays sleeping the day away. She reports to work everyday but is on notice for poor performance. Despite being fit and petite she is a low energy person who just doesn't do much, ever.
Yet having kids is at the top of her priorities, nothing else is close. So do women sometimes get motivated after having a kid? If she digs deep and gets the child care done, will she resent the child for making her work so hard?
A number of things could be at work here:
depression
iron deficiency
low blood pressure
sugar issues (low or high)
If she is just a "lazy" person, a child or two will certainly cure that. Unless, of course, she happens to be a bad person to boot!
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