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Just landed in Miami. I already have reservations at Azul for tomorrow, which is her favorite restaurant. I have the engagement ring, which cost $19,000 of the money that my parents loaned to me. Wish me luck!
Good luck....on your first marriage.
In all honesty I detect a bit of immaturity and impulsivity on the part of the OP which does not usually bode well for having a solid marriage.
You want her parents to go to burn in Hell for all eternity just because they don't want you to marry their daughter? While I certainly understand your frustration, this seems a bit harsh.
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He's making unneccessary problems for himself and for getting along with his future wife. She loves her parents, they're going to resent him...guess who's going to resent him next? Her!
This issue is going to hang in the air during the marriage like grease after a fishfry.
So I have been dating a wonderful girl for the last 3 years. She is beautiful, smart, funny, and is my other half, which I love.
Here's the problem. So I recently went looking for nice engagement rings, since I am preparing to ask her to marry me. So I bought a plane ticket to NY to ask her parents for their daughter's hand in marriage. They said NO.
I admit, they might have a valid reason. About 2 years ago, I cheated on my girlfriend with a girl I met at the gym. The affair lasted about a week. This is the reason why her parents don't want me betrothed to their daughter.
What should I do? I LOVE her to death, but when she tells her parents I proposed, what kind of hell will ensue? For crying out loud, her father called me SCUM. I need your advice.
OP, if I was your gf I would have dumped you for 2 reasons:
First, you cheated. It would be over for me right there. If a woman cheated on my younger brother and he wanted to marry her still....I would called her the same thing. That's something some people can't get over with.
Second, if for whatever reason you didn't cheat again and manage to earn my trust back, I would still dump you for having to asking my parents for permission and then saying ''Oh what should I do now, they say NO...what now, I don't know what to do''. You don't need permission to marry your gf. Just ask her directly and be a man. I wouldn't date a man like that.
My grandfather told my father he wouldn't give permission. My father told him he was going to ask my mother anyway. He did, and they had 25 miserable years together. No, I don't think there's necessarily a correlation.
I think the whole parental permission thing is pretty much BS anyway. Did you think they liked you or something? Why did you fly out there rather than just asking over the phone? Have you discussed marriage with your girlfriend? How old are you guys?
This all seems like a rather bizarre situation.
I never would have asked them to begin with.
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I never would have asked them to begin with.