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If a pretty stranger makes eye contact and smiles at you, and/or responds in a friendly and helpful way to questions you ask her (asking for directions, etc.), do you figure she is coming on to you? Or disinterested but polite?
I would assume polite. Studies have shown that most men will interpret this as interest, where there really is none. For me to interpret it as interest, she'd have to say or do something well beyond friendly politeness.
I would assume polite. Studies have shown that most men will interpret this as interest, where there really is none. For me to interpret it as interest, she'd have to say or do something well beyond friendly politeness.
Can you give an example? What could she say or do that wouldn't be taken as too forward?
If a pretty stranger makes eye contact and smiles at you, and/or responds in a friendly and helpful way to questions you ask her (asking for directions, etc.), do you figure she is coming on to you? Or disinterested but polite?
I would assume polite. Studies have shown that most men will interpret this as interest, where there really is none. For me to interpret it as interest, she'd have to say or do something well beyond friendly politeness.
Exactly! If a smile and being friendly is "interest" then half the women I run into must want to jump my bones.
If a pretty stranger makes eye contact and smiles at you, and/or responds in a friendly and helpful way to questions you ask her (asking for directions, etc.), do you figure she is coming on to you? Or disinterested but polite?
This is a spin-off of the eye contact thread
I would interpret it as her being polite, and not any type of romantic interest...
If a pretty stranger makes eye contact and smiles at you, and/or responds in a friendly and helpful way to questions you ask her (asking for directions, etc.), do you figure she is coming on to you? Or disinterested but polite?
I wouldn't assume she's interested in me, but I also wouldn't assume she isn't interested just based off that.
Sigh... Women need to sack up and actually initiate. Ha, just last week, someone wrote in to Carolyn Hax about her friend that wanted to be "set up" with a guy friend they knew. Then all the comments were about the person writing in either needed to protect her friend, or some crazy plan to get them together. Jesus Christ. Woman are flippin ridiculous when it comes to this.
Last edited by smarterguy; 05-24-2013 at 02:22 PM..
I'm so oblivious that unless she's going in for the kiss I'm still at a loss as to whether she likes me or not.
Eye contact? Being polite? That's what people do....
I remember once I was on the bus, and this girl comes up to me and sits right across from me. The bus was relatively empty, so I thought it was strange that she chose to invade my personal space like that. I did think she was "kind of hot"...but more than anything I was weirded out by what she was doing. She was looking at me hard...staring...smiling and stuff (preening)... Eventually, she got up and went to another seat...
It took me a year to figure out that she very obviously wanted to talk to me. At the time, I just thought..."why is she acting so strange?"
Ah, my life.
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Exactly! If a smile and being friendly is "interest" then half the women I run into must want to jump my bones.
