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Settling for less is a waste of time. You will just end up breaking up because you are miserable.
OTOH, re-examining your requirements, thinking deeply about which requirements are really yours and which are societal assumptions you have accepted without question, this can result in raising your standards AND having a broader dating pool.
Settling for less is a waste of time. You will just end up breaking up because you are miserable.
OTOH, re-examining your requirements, thinking deeply about which requirements are really yours and which are societal assumptions you have accepted without question, this can result in raising your standards AND having a broader dating pool.
NilaJones, I think you're kinda strange but brilliant as well.
Yes, I am miserable because I "settled" for someone who is wonderful in many ways but has never been the right one for me. But how do you raise your standards and have a broader dating pool? I have never been attractive to women, hence my desperation. From my experiences , I find it hard to believe that there is someone for everyone.
I don't believe so. Despite the population of people on this planet, there's always going to be those that will be alone regardless of whether they want to be or not.
NilaJones, I think you're kinda strange but brilliant as well.
Wow, that is pretty much the best compliment ever .
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Yes, I am miserable because I "settled" for someone who is wonderful in many ways but has never been the right one for me. But how do you raise your standards and have a broader dating pool?
By figuring out what your own personal standards really are, rather than just accepting prefabricated societal ones.
One guy I know, after some introspection, realised that he finds plump women more attractive than skinny ones. Suddenly he has a huge dating pool and less competition.
Maybe you like shy, geeky, girl scientists. Or maybe I am just projecting because I like them . And maybe they don't get as many guys coming onto them as blondes with big hair do.
Or maybe you are a short guy and you realise that you are not actually bothered by a woman being taller than you. You don't care that society says you should be all neurotic about it. Suddenly your dating pool expands by 400% .
So, like that. Go for what you really want. Don't be one of 100 guys in a room all chasing after the same woman because she looks like a model and has a brain the size of a peanut.
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I have never been attractive to women, hence my desperation. From my experiences , I find it hard to believe that there is someone for everyone.
You don't need to be attractive to women. You only need to be attractive to one woman -- the one that you want the most. Guys shoot themselves in the foot when they try to make dating a numbers game. They end up turning off the discerning women, because they seem un-discerning, themselves.
So, like that. Go for what you really want. Don't be one of 100 guys in a room all chasing after the same woman because she looks like a model and has a brain the size of a peanut.
Why assume the girl who looks like a model is stupid? Why do you need to look down on her?
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. And maybe they don't get as many guys coming onto them as blondes with big hair do.
