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My life right now is over flooded with women. It's gotten to the point I want to turn off my phone...It's sad because I don't really know why I'm still striking out with everyone. I should've found her by now..
The first girl is more or less my gf, though we hardly spend any time together. She doesn't want me to move too fast...I typically like spending most of my free time with the girl I'm seeing. So, something will have to give. As it is, she thinks she'll lose 'her ability to control me' if she doesn't give me and herself space and time. This is worrisome..maybe I don't want to be controlled?
The second is like 10/10 awesome..both physically and personality..but she thinks of me as a friend, and I largely cut contact with her after that. However, she's in town this week and wants me to help her out..of course like the fool I am I'll be there extra early.
The third is an old fling. She draws me into these long text conversations despite us just being 'friends' now...I'm way too flirty in these texts. She likes having my attention, mostly, I'm thinking.
The next one knows me way too well...so I like her a lot. She's very real about everything...told me straight up that she wasn't trying to hook up. You see, that's awesome to me because now there's no pressure. If it happens, it happens. If not, then not. Besides, I'm kind of preoccupied with the first girl..
Then there is this girl...I told her that 'if she isn't careful, she'll find herself becoming my wife'...she told me to 'go prove it' and that, in large part, was the impetus for me skipping town for 6 months. When I got back, I texted her...no response. I run into her, and we have a good conversation. She texts me afterwards saying she was glad to have seen me. I neglect to text her back because all I had to say was 'yeah'...I run into her again, this time I'm busy, but she's angry at me for not texting her back...I told her I didn't really have anything to say but I didn't know she'd care so much, and I'll text later. She leaves me saying 'No, don't text me'. I round the corner, her on the other side, and shout 'I will!'...and I hear in response 'Don't!'...
So, I text her right after...and quite predictably...no response.
I guess what I'm looking for just wasn't meant to be found right now. What am I doing wrong?
Sounds to me like your only problem is that you are unclear in your own mind who you want as a friend and who you want as a potential gf/wife. And some of these women get annoyed at you for the consequent mixed messages (as any reasonable person would).
If any of these women are causing undue stress in your life, just stop communicating with them. It doesn't seem like you're that serious about any of them anyway.
Choose one and focus on her. Otherwise, your head is all over the place.
Personally, I didn't 'keep my options open'. I dated one man at a time. That way no name confusion or any of that stuff. Even if it's just a string of first dates. Focusing on one person at a time was just simpler.
Choose one and focus on her. Otherwise, your head is all over the place.
Personally, I didn't 'keep my options open'. I dated one man at a time. That way no name confusion or any of that stuff. Even if it's just a string of first dates. Focusing on one person at a time was just simpler.
I agree this is the best way to do it, you also avoid any jealous blow ups.
Not every woman you meet or know has to be for sex or a relationship. You can actually have friends that are women. Enjoy the friends you have and make.
Choose one and focus on her. Otherwise, your head is all over the place.
Personally, I didn't 'keep my options open'. I dated one man at a time. That way no name confusion or any of that stuff. Even if it's just a string of first dates. Focusing on one person at a time was just simpler.
I agree.
This is part of the culture today that can work against people. Keeping exes around, maintaining "friendships" wherein you allow yourself to be used, all because you like the attention or possible options...
Find someone who is as into you as you are them, and don't have fallback people around to satisfy the needs that your GF isn't meeting.
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