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Old 05-28-2013, 02:44 AM
 
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This doesn't seem to be my strong suit. I often have trouble closing and usually can't get past the first or second date.
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Old 05-28-2013, 06:02 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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Stop thinking of your dates as business transactions, because it's probably coming across in your behavior. I understand that part of dating is "selling yourself" (although a big part of dating should be about whether you like them and not just about impressing people), but if I'm turning someone down after a second date it means I expected to see a little more of the genuine person.
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Old 05-28-2013, 06:28 AM
 
Location: DFW
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You sound like a desperate salesman.

Would you sleep with a used car salesman on your 1-2nd date ? Most everyone can see through the BS, just gotta be a likeable down to earth guy.

Like in Real Estate, the harder you try to "Sell" the more desperate you sound.
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Old 05-28-2013, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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No pressure and let her seal the deal
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Old 05-28-2013, 06:44 AM
 
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Are those first two dates enjoyable? Or do either of you get bored quickly?
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Old 05-28-2013, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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"Sex is for closers!!!"



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Old 05-28-2013, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Stop thinking of your dates as business transactions, because it's probably coming across in your behavior. I understand that part of dating is "selling yourself" (although a big part of dating should be about whether you like them and not just about impressing people), but if I'm turning someone down after a second date it means I expected to see a little more of the genuine person.
^^^This. Are you looking for a quick lay or a relationship? If all you're thinking about is "closing", with little care for meeting someone new, getting to know them, and hopefully having a good time in the process, what's the point?
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Old 05-28-2013, 07:43 AM
 
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This doesn't seem to be my strong suit. I often have trouble closing and usually can't get past the first or second date.
Be yourself.

So many people add all this stress for no reason.

Think of your next date as a night out with an old friend. Just have fun. Think of it as a night out as if you are not with anyone. I will clarify that...

If you are so worried about making the date go good that you are holding back talking, eating certain foods .. Etc... You are bound to give a false representation of the REAL you.

I would rather the gal show up wearing what is most comfortable for her than for her to complain halfway through the date saying, "I hate heals this high and skirts this short. I just wanted to impress you."

I guess I would rather her wear something that more represents the person within.

With that said, "Be yourself."
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Old 05-28-2013, 08:00 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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This doesn't seem to be my strong suit. I often have trouble closing and usually can't get past the first or second date.
The first thing he should do is stop using metaphors like "deal sealer" and "closing" when talking about romantic relationships.
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Old 05-28-2013, 08:03 AM
 
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A potential relationship is not supposed to treated like you are writing a check to purchase the Cottage Style Garden Shed you have had your eye on.

Maybe lighten up on the business transactions during your dates and focus on YOUR DATE.
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