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I'm just curious. To me, "butterflies" would be reserved for the best of the best, or what people may commonly refer to as "the one." Or something like that. Since it's pretty much a feeling that you can't control, I am wondering if anyone has gotten that feeling more than once.
I get butterflies every time my husband steps into my line of sight after we've been apart for a while - even if it's just been a day.
But as you said, butterflies are reserved for the best of the best!
If I got it as often as other posters say, it would get to be pretty annoying.... In my experience, it's just with newer relationships. Not first date, but within the first month, it's a good sign.
I think it happens at the start of most new relationships. It's the whole cocktail of emotional hormones that produces the sensation. If you stop feeling it, you've become jaded, IMO, and start approaching new relationships intellectually/calculatedly and not emotionally.
The is no such thing as "the one". You get butterflies when you are nervous, excited, in lust, or nervously excited by lust.
What I'm describing isn't just basic nervousness around someone you're interested in, but I appreciate the response.
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Originally Posted by TaoistDude
I think it happens at the start of most new relationships. It's the whole cocktail of emotional hormones that produces the sensation. If you stop feeling it, you've become jaded, IMO, and start approaching new relationships intellectually/calculatedly and not emotionally.
So the "butterflies" would be with someone who made you throw your logic out of the window, basically.
So the "butterflies" would be with someone who made you throw your logic out of the window, basically.
Not at all. I see the "butterflies" as an indication of extreme attraction, but I always use rational thinking to evaluate how compatible we are. If the compatibility isn't there, I'll walk despite the butterflies. In fact, the stronger the butterfly feeling, the greater the need to examine things carefully to be sure my decisions have a good outcome.
I really think it's more to do with genetic compatibility than any magical concept like "the one" for you chosen by god or whatever. There is a particular person I feel a great deal of butterflies toward and I know he does toward me to some extent. He's not dating material (he's not under 18 nor is he a relative. Just not a good boyfriend material).
When I was younger, in my teens, I maybe got that feeling often.
But I think only 2 relationships have given me those feelings as an adult.
And, now that I think about it, I can say I haven't experienced those nervous attraction feelings in a long time. It has probably been at least 7 years. And I have dated all the while.
I wonder especially now, if me being jaded has something to do with the lack of nervous attraction. But then, I can safely say everyone I have dated since the last time I got those butterfly feelings have had something about them that prevented me from falling that much 'in like' with them.
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