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Old 05-31-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: New England
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I am 23 and I still have some time to find a girlfriend and eventual wife, but I thought I would post what I am looking for and see if you think any women would even fit this criteria these days.

-Very feminine, sweet, want me to run their life
-Traditionally hot, with no weight problems, tattoos, etc.
-Young
-Wants to take good loving care of me as a matter of course (make coffee, do dishes, cleaning, cooking, and laundry)
-Wants to have a lot of children and stay home to raise them and be a mother to them
-Has desire to dress well, exercise, and keep herself up
-Is Catholic or is at least open to joining the Church


I could go on and list other things that would be nice touches, such as virginity, class and culture, liking to dance, being blonde, etc. but I'll pass because these 7 things I listed above already seem to weed out the vast majority of modern U.S. women. They would think I'm a "sexist", which I suppose I am in the sense that I think there are definite differences between the sexes and the man should take the lead in dating and in marriage. Masculine and assertive versus feminine and submissive. Am I wrong? Is my search for a legitimately womanly woman is vain? I'd like to hear your thoughts on this.


TL;DR
I want a girl with sensibilities firmly in the middle-20th century and not this one.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Am I wrong?
Yes.

You can like what you like and want what you want, but this
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the man should take the lead in dating and in marriage. Masculine and assertive versus feminine and submissive
is not grounded in reality.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:25 PM
 
Location: New England
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Yes.
Well, OK, but isn't that more your opinion than anything? Haha.


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not grounded in reality.
What about it is not grounded? I've had some incredible conversations with your truly feminine women when your metaphoric sparks were flying and etc. due to this dynamic.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:26 PM
 
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Are you at least an 8 in looks?
Do you make at least 100k to support her and the kids?
Are you in peak physical condition?

Its getting harder and harder to find women like that these days.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:30 PM
 
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is not grounded in reality.
Where is the evidence for that? The vast majority of females prefer a masculine male. And vice versa. Women don't like men who don't lead, they end up resenting men they have to lead. In almost all aspects of dating, women in general prefer the guy that is more masculine than not masculine.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Where is the evidence for that? The vast majority of females prefer a masculine male. And vice versa. Women don't like men who don't lead, they end up resenting men they have to lead. In almost all aspects of dating, women in general prefer the guy that is more masculine than not masculine.
I don't care to be submissive, have my partner run my life, or be told that I'm not a "womanly woman" because of it.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:32 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Is there a Catholic dating website? You're going to have to wade through a lot of young women to find the ones who meet your criteria. Otherwise, you're going to have to start visiting churches to find yourself a partner.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:33 PM
 
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If your Church has a young adult's group, I would start looking there. What you've listed are Catholic values and if a young lady is involved in her church, there is a good chance that she's actively involved in her faith and will share those values you listed.

Good luck!
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:34 PM
 
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I'm Catholic, my boyfriend is Catholic but no way am I submissive and no way is he dominant. Sure you could find a woman like that but you might have to wait a long time. A guy friend wanted someone like that (and he required her to be a virgin as well)and he found her but she is very obese and homely and he admitted he's not into her looks at all but she fit what he wanted.
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Old 05-31-2013, 12:35 PM
 
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I am 23 and I still have some time to find a girlfriend and eventual wife, but I thought I would post what I am looking for and see if you think any women would even fit this criteria these days.

-Very feminine, sweet, want me to run their life
-Traditionally hot, with no weight problems, tattoos, etc.
-Young
-Wants to take good loving care of me as a matter of course (make coffee, do dishes, cleaning, cooking, and laundry)
-Wants to have a lot of children and stay home to raise them and be a mother to them
-Has desire to dress well, exercise, and keep herself up
-Is Catholic or is at least open to joining the Church


I could go on and list other things that would be nice touches, such as virginity, class and culture, liking to dance, being blonde, etc. but I'll pass because these 7 things I listed above already seem to weed out the vast majority of modern U.S. women. They would think I'm a "sexist", which I suppose I am in the sense that I think there are definite differences between the sexes and the man should take the lead in dating and in marriage. Masculine and assertive versus feminine and submissive. Am I wrong? Is my search for a legitimately womanly woman is vain? I'd like to hear your thoughts on this.


TL;DR
I want a girl with sensibilities firmly in the middle-20th century and not this one.

Why would you want to run someone else's life?
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