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Old 06-01-2013, 10:32 PM
 
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First off, I know people are going to be very enraged about me even asking this question. But the truth is, I am most attracted to men who share my European looks and cultural roots. I can't help myself. (On a side note, if I was saying I was an Asian guy looking for an Asian girl, I'm certain far less people would find that offensive or bothersome!)

But I live in Vancouver, and literally every white guy, well maybe 90% of them, have or are seeking an Asian girlfriend. Just today, driving downtown I was astounded at just how apparent this sociological phenomenon has become.

I'm from Los Angeles, and before moving here last year I was asked out by fairly attractive men left and right. Since moving here, I've only been asked out a few times--by drunk men at a casino. Once I even joined up a dating site, and as a fit 21 year old in university, I was astounded at how few messages I received to the ratio of those who viewed my profile. The ones who did make contact were mostly unattractive or loser-ish.

I don't hate Asians, but it is no doubt bothersome to have a thing for white guys in a city where the vast majority of them are only interested in them.

Even if I am a university graduate, even if I do take excellent care of my health and skin, even if I am graceful & ladylike, they'll still prefer an Asian woman.

I am thinking of moving to Seattle (not for this reason)--I heard this phenomenon is primarily a west coast thing, which makes sense because that's where most of the Asians in North America are. I imagine dating will be a drag there too for this reason, and with my preference for white guys.

So, if I want to expand my chances of finding an attractive, successful European male counterpart, what cities in North America are better for that?

*Cities that are NOT in the south, however. And those whose populace are well-educated and liberal, with low crime and a lively art scene.

 
Old 06-01-2013, 10:37 PM
 
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You would like New York, especially Manhattan. Although you'd have some seriously fierce competition - the city is literally teeming with gorgeous, young white women in their 20s (and indeed, women of all races) with much of it in full display now that summer is here. I've been urging a lot of my buddies situated in other cities to take a trip out now to enjoy the "view" in all it's glory But the phenomenon of white guy - asian girl couples, while not all that uncommon, is not nearly as common as the white guy - white girl thing, so I think it would be more suited to your tastes. I'm in Manhattan right now as I type and was living in NYC full time until recently, so this is from direct experience.

Also, I live in LA now (moved back from NYC in December) and honestly from what I've observed, most white guys still pair up with white girls there as well, so why don't you just move back there?
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:06 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
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First off, I know people are going to be very enraged about me even asking this question. But the truth is, I am most attracted to men who share my European looks and cultural roots. I can't help myself. (On a side note, if I was saying I was an Asian guy looking for an Asian girl, I'm certain far less people would find that offensive or bothersome!)

But I live in Vancouver, and literally every white guy, well maybe 90% of them, have or are seeking an Asian girlfriend. Just today, driving downtown I was astounded at just how apparent this sociological phenomenon has become.

I'm from Los Angeles, and before moving here last year I was asked out by fairly attractive men left and right. Since moving here, I've only been asked out a few times--by drunk men at a casino. Once I even joined up a dating site, and as a fit 21 year old in university, I was astounded at how few messages I received to the ratio of those who viewed my profile. The ones who did make contact were mostly unattractive or loser-ish.

I don't hate Asians, but it is no doubt bothersome to have a thing for white guys in a city where the vast majority of them are only interested in them.

Even if I am a university graduate, even if I do take excellent care of my health and skin, even if I am graceful & ladylike, they'll still prefer an Asian woman.

I am thinking of moving to Seattle (not for this reason)--I heard this phenomenon is primarily a west coast thing, which makes sense because that's where most of the Asians in North America are. I imagine dating will be a drag there too for this reason, and with my preference for white guys.

So, if I want to expand my chances of finding an attractive, successful European male counterpart, what cities in North America are better for that?

*Cities that are NOT in the south, however. And those whose populace are well-educated and liberal, with low crime and a lively art scene.
It is annoying how people get so PC about dating like you had mentioned. I would think any city would have enough Caucasian men for you to meet, even on the West Coast.
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:09 PM
 
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I've never heard of anybody having a problem like this in any US city. Of course, I've never heard of this problem before at all.

The only major cities in the US that have an Asian population that rival Vancouver are probably San Francisco and Honolulu. As you mention, you did not have any kind of problem like this in L.A.
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:13 PM
 
Location: H-Tine, Texas
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You're really asking where to find white guys in the US or Canada ?

Sounds like a personal problem to me.
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:22 PM
 
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Not just White guys. White guys who aren't obsessed with or have a preference for Asians. This trend is extremely apparent here in Vancouver.
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:26 PM
 
Location: West of Louisiana, East of New Mexico
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Why not...I dunno, go to Europe. Try one of the Scandinavian countries perhaps...or Utah...maybe Montana or North Dakota. Trying to find white men (that like white women) in the U.S. is like finding grass on a golf course. It doesn't take that much effort. Finding a good man however....that's a different conversation.

Sounds like bait with the hopes that a non-white person will bite, launching a "reverse-racism" rant.
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:34 PM
 
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Originally Posted by djohanna View Post
First off, I know people are going to be very enraged about me even asking this question. But the truth is, I am most attracted to men who share my European looks and cultural roots. I can't help myself. (On a side note, if I was saying I was an Asian guy looking for an Asian girl, I'm certain far less people would find that offensive or bothersome!)

But I live in Vancouver, and literally every white guy, well maybe 90% of them, have or are seeking an Asian girlfriend. Just today, driving downtown I was astounded at just how apparent this sociological phenomenon has become.

I'm from Los Angeles, and before moving here last year I was asked out by fairly attractive men left and right. Since moving here, I've only been asked out a few times--by drunk men at a casino. Once I even joined up a dating site, and as a fit 21 year old in university, I was astounded at how few messages I received to the ratio of those who viewed my profile. The ones who did make contact were mostly unattractive or loser-ish.

I don't hate Asians, but it is no doubt bothersome to have a thing for white guys in a city where the vast majority of them are only interested in them.

Even if I am a university graduate, even if I do take excellent care of my health and skin, even if I am graceful & ladylike, they'll still prefer an Asian woman.

I am thinking of moving to Seattle (not for this reason)--I heard this phenomenon is primarily a west coast thing, which makes sense because that's where most of the Asians in North America are. I imagine dating will be a drag there too for this reason, and with my preference for white guys.

So, if I want to expand my chances of finding an attractive, successful European male counterpart, what cities in North America are better for that?

*Cities that are NOT in the south, however. And those whose populace are well-educated and liberal, with low crime and a lively art scene.
well honey,EVERYBODY knows you just head to Whiteytown for what you are looking for
 
Old 06-01-2013, 11:36 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Fargo, ND is a swell place.
 
Old 06-02-2013, 12:01 AM
 
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The midwest?
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