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I did, but I'd already known her for a while. I had a couple of long term relationships that flamed out after about a year. A few years after my last relationship, I re-connected with an old friend from High School we're going to have our two year anniversary soon
I wanted a lasting long term relationship from about the time I was 19 and I'm 27 now. So it took me about six years.
I think this is really good example for all the guys we get here, complaining about how impossible it is to find someone.
Something I've noticed IRL is that women tend to expect the search to be measured in years, and men tend to think in terms of weeks. Is that just people I know, or have y'all seen the same thing?
I think this is really good example for all the guys we get here, complaining about how impossible it is to find someone.
Something I've noticed IRL is that women tend to expect the search to be measured in years, and men tend to think in terms of weeks. Is that just people I know, or have y'all seen the same thing?
I've noticed that on C-D, but IRL, I don't know, I suppose I've never asked anyone that IRL. lol.
You need to actually get to know a man. Don't just think of him as a means to an end. You said it yourself, you're having trouble freaking telling them apart. You're not going to connect with a man and find your soulmate that way. Find one guy or two and date them and find out what they are truly like.
You need to actually get to know a man. Don't just think of him as a means to an end. You said it yourself, you're having trouble freaking telling them apart. You're not going to connect with a man and find your soulmate that way. Find one guy or two and date them and find out what they are truly like.
I've actually covered all of this in this thread, but I'm not going to copy and paste it all here and I don't expect you to go digging for it, either. So, no worries. Thanks for the feedback.
I think this is really good example for all the guys we get here, complaining about how impossible it is to find someone.
Something I've noticed IRL is that women tend to expect the search to be measured in years, and men tend to think in terms of weeks. Is that just people I know, or have y'all seen the same thing?
I think it depends on if the man or women has reliable sex on the side. I have found that irl its MUCH easier for a woman to have sex on the side while she is looking for "the one" this gives her ALOT of time because she is not dealing with sexual frustration (until she starts running out of time to have a baby). For a guy that cant get a fwb to save his life, well, down goes the bar till he finds a woman willing to be in a relationship with him.
I think a lot of what makes relationships difficult in the modern era is that we look for one person to fit a multitude of functions in our lives -- romantic partner, financial/retirement-planning/mortgage partner, co-parent, etc.
What if you just find yourself a co-parent? A guy who wants kids, whose parenting style and general life choices you respect, a good person. Get a lawyer to draw up a contract stating rights and responsibilities for both of you, and make a kid with him and a turkey baster. If you end up wanting to date and/or move in together that's cool, but if you don't, or if you do for a while and then stop, that's all cool, too. The co-parenting is the main relationship. Take the pressure off the rest. Maybe marry someone else.
I think a lot of what makes relationships difficult in the modern era is that we look for one person to fit a multitude of functions in our lives -- romantic partner, financial/retirement-planning/mortgage partner, co-parent, etc.
What if you just find yourself a co-parent? A guy who wants kids, whose parenting style and general life choices you respect, a good person. Get a lawyer to draw up a contract stating rights and responsibilities for both of you, and make a kid with him and a turkey baster. If you end up wanting to date and/or move in together that's cool, but if you don't, or if you do for a while and then stop, that's all cool, too. The co-parenting is the main relationship. Take the pressure off the rest. Maybe marry someone else.
What do you think?
If she finds a guy that agrees to that, send me his name and address and I will buy a plane ticket to beat him to death to put him out of his misery. Good lord.
Anyone who is willing can be trained to be good in bed if you work with them.
Stopping in to testify from experience, unfortunately, that this is absolutely, 100% not true.
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