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Someone once told me, "If you honestly feel like you need someone to 'complete' you, you will never be happy." I have found this to hold true, for both me and for people I know and have observed over the years.
Don't try to fill a hole in your heart with unrealistic (and frankly, unfair) expectations of how another person "should" be the person to "make things right for you." The happiest people I know, and likely the happiest people you know too, accept themselves for who they are, which is not the same as being unwilling to work on your faults and better yourself; rather, it includes the recognition and willingness to give yourself permission to try, permission to make mistakes, and permission to learn from those mistakes.
In my view, too many people mostly or only think, "What is it I can get out of the relationship?", rather than "What is it I can give to the relationship?" See the difference?
Know thyself; fill your time up with things that make yourself happy-which, you may find, tend to be the same things that make a positive impact not just on your own life, but also, on others' lives and on the broader world. Learn to love yourself (in a gentle, humble way), which will allow you to love other people. If you can't look at yourself in the mirror at the end of the day and accept THAT person, then how can you expect to love someone else?
Alright, I'll get off my soapbox now. What do you all think? Am I crazy, or...?
I've never liked the "you complete me" stuff. I was happy single and I'm happy married. But I was a whole and complete person before I got married and I still am. I think people who look to someone else to 'complete' them, are emotional vampires.
I've never liked the "you complete me" stuff. I was happy single and I'm happy married. But I was a whole and complete person before I got married and I still am. I think people who look to someone else to 'complete' them, are emotional vampires.
I see nothing wrong with co-dependence, as long as both people are good people. I'd favor that over independence.
If anything ever happened to my husband, I need to be independent enough to take care of myself and the kids. If anything ever happened to me, vice versa for my SO.
I see nothing wrong with co-dependence, as long as both people are good people. I'd favor that over independence.
I've been in codependent family...
...Never again.
It is not safe I tell you...
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What do you all think? Am I crazy, or...? 
