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Old 06-07-2013, 09:11 PM
 
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I want to ask this person at my workplace out for dinner. She's not an actual employee at my company but works in a kiosk in my company dealing with the public.

We get along great and joke around a lot. I was thinking of asking her out for dinner but the only reason I don't want to is not because of rejection, but in case she says NO(which I'm okay with) and tells my other co-workers about me asking her out. THAT bothers me, people finding out I got rejected.

I've always been like this. If a girl says no, fine with me. It's if she starts telling others we both know I get embarrassed about the rejection.

Do any of you feel this way? Rejection okay, others finding out humilating?
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Old 06-07-2013, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Yeah I think most people feel that way, however for most people, once they get out of HS they really don't talk about rejecting an offer. Unless this woman is cold/mean I would worry so much about her telling others she said no. BUT you'll never know unless you ask!! Ask her for coffee or something simple at first then move into "a date." DO IT!!
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Old 06-07-2013, 09:54 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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no regrets, brah! embrace rejection; it will help you in the future when it comes to dating.

btw: who cares what other people think.
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Old 06-07-2013, 09:58 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Why would she blab? That's not normal behavior, especially since she doesn't work for your company.
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Old 06-07-2013, 10:06 PM
 
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Women did this all the time with me when I was asking women out. They ran to there friends and pointed fingers and gave those ew faces.
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Old 06-07-2013, 10:21 PM
 
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Women did this all the time with me when I was asking women out. They ran to there friends and pointed fingers and gave those ew faces.
Dude,I think you down yourself WAY to much...I know a guy around here that looks like he was born with his ass on his face and is not well off financially,but he has a new woman every time you see him..confidence?good sense of humor? Try it my brutha
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Old 06-07-2013, 10:21 PM
 
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I want to ask this person at my workplace out for dinner. She's not an actual employee at my company but works in a kiosk in my company dealing with the public.

We get along great and joke around a lot. I was thinking of asking her out for dinner but the only reason I don't want to is not because of rejection, but in case she says NO(which I'm okay with) and tells my other co-workers about me asking her out. THAT bothers me, people finding out I got rejected.

I've always been like this. If a girl says no, fine with me. It's if she starts telling others we both know I get embarrassed about the rejection.

Do any of you feel this way? Rejection okay, others finding out humilating?
Yes, and it's terrible form for someone to tell others (especially others that know you).

That said, it's nothing that should stop you.
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Old 06-07-2013, 10:36 PM
 
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Women did this all the time with me when I was asking women out. They ran to there friends and pointed fingers and gave those ew faces.
Right in front of your face? They RAN and POINTED and WENT "EW"? How old were these girls--10?

I can't understand that response unless you were asking out women who were complete strangers like some kind of stalker and they felt insulted or threatened. Usually, men ask women out whom they know at least well enough to determine that the woman seems interested and is mature and normal enough not to act like a 5th grader.
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Old 06-07-2013, 11:46 PM
 
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I can't understand that response unless you were asking out women who were complete strangers like some kind of stalker and they felt insulted or threatened.
Yes, that is the behaviour of a woman who feels physically unsafe.
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Old 06-08-2013, 01:28 AM
 
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With over 1,000 rejections in my books. I do not care who finds out. I don't control them.

It's a number game.
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