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Yes woman care that you have a job because guys who don't work are perceived as losers. Granted there are some reasons why people don't work, like the economy or sickness and I would hope people keep that in mind. I can't help but wonder though that many of you men are finding women who only care about your money because you are seeking much younger. I can understand a 20 something woman only dating an older man because he has money because otherwise why would she be interested when she can find a hot stud her age?
Anyway, I was just talking to my mom about this and she doesn't understand why I failed at online dating. I told her being a 42 year old woman on a dating site is like being invisible. Oh sure if I lowered my standards by dating dads or older men I may have struck gold but why go for something I know would make me miserable?
Yes woman care that you have a job because guys who don't work are perceived as losers. Granted there are some reasons why people don't work, like the economy or sickness and I would hope people keep that in mind. I can't help but wonder though that many of you men are finding women who only care about your money because you are seeking much younger. I can understand a 20 something woman only dating an older man because he has money because otherwise why would she be interested when she can find a hot stud her age?
Anyway, I was just talking to my mom about this and she doesn't understand why I failed at online dating. I told her being a 42 year old woman on a dating site is like being invisible. Oh sure if I lowered my standards by dating dads or older men I may have struck gold but why go for something I know would make me miserable?
I don't think unemployed men should be dating anyway because being unemployed is enough drama in itself so you definitely don't need added drama with dating
Online dating, if you're a man, is a lot like looking for a job online. That is, every woman's profile gets dozens of responses weekly much like every online job ad generates dozens to hundreds of well qualified applicants. You could be a tall good looking guy with a great personality and a decent job, but there are also countless other guys to compete with. Men often get lost in the shuffle. Women are like overwhelmed employers receiving scores of resumes and they have become just as picky as people offering jobs in this economy.
However, it is often easier to find a date in real life as opposed to online for most people. Just like with jobs, many people meet their significant other through their personal network of friends, family or local social clubs or organizations. But nothing compares to real life chemistry between strangers. A woman that might overlook a man's profile online might be completely enamored with the same man in real life. Pictures and profiles often act as a funhouse mirror. Women have mastered the art of making themselves look much better than they do in real life and men lie about their height and level of personal success.
I didnt have much luck. I changed my income ,and within 30 minutes I had a bunch of replies.
Yeah, this blows. I recently moved across the country for a job opportunity. Since I basically know nobody in my new area, I thought I'd give match.com a shot. Initially, I had my salary listed, and I was getting a lot of responses and dates. I didn't really have good chemistry with those girls; I kind of got the gold digger vibe from them. I removed my salary from my profile, and now I haven't gotten a single response!
I found online dating to be a breeze. I had one girl literally like obsessed with me which I found amazing because she was receiving several hundred messages a week. She even showed me. She was mega clingy. Super nice and great girl but wanted to like be married practically after a few weeks.
I met a ton of great girls but maybe I just wasnt really ready to date or maybe I was too picky.
I found a LOT of things that helped.
1. Make your profile amusine and memorable. Give women points in your profile they may be able to comment on or speak more about to keep conversations going.
2. Pictures. Unless youre insane jacked, no shirtless pics. Even if you are its iffy but if youre in good enough shape manyyyy girls will look past it..
Also, post pics with friends and/or family. It shows youre a normal person and can attain good relationships with friends and family. If you have a dog it shows you are probably semi responsible and caring.
Lastly, send GOOD messages. Not 5 page novels. Not "hey whats up?" From the girls I talked to the majority of their messages were something short and stupid.
Send a nice message that ackowledges you actually READ their profile. Be it their hobbies, interests, etc. etc.
"I see you like mountain biking, have you been to xxx park? Ive been going there lately, they have great trails"
Also, I personally almost never make any comment of their appearance or pictures for at least a few messages.
Along with all the "hey whats up?" Messages, I believe the attractive ones also get a ton of messages complimenting their looks and mention nothing of their actual profile.
Just a few tips. The best thing is a good tongue and cheek funny profile and a way to send messages that are unique. Sometimes if a girl said she prefers white men under 30 I'd send a message saying "as you can see by my pictures I am a 40 year old black man but I hope you can make an exception " I'm 25 and white. I'd do the same thing if they said they prefer black men, just the other way around lol.
Yeah, this blows. I recently moved across the country for a job opportunity. Since I basically know nobody in my new area, I thought I'd give match.com a shot. Initially, I had my salary listed, and I was getting a lot of responses and dates. I didn't really have good chemistry with those girls; I kind of got the gold digger vibe from them. I removed my salary from my profile, and now I haven't gotten a single response!
What's wrong with you? Dont hide who you are...if you have money let it show.
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" I'm 25 and white. I'd do the same thing if they said they prefer black men, just the other way around lol. 
