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He told me if I was out of my uniform he would ask me out in a heartbeat.
I bet he would!
Seriously, it's not a lot to go on. The title of the thread implied that you were in a relationship with someone, but the thread tells a different story. How serious is he? Is it more like flirting? Is it safe for him to say this meaning that since you're "in uniform" he can say it? What if you resigned and he said, "Crap. You thought I was serious?" If it's a situation where he can't date a fellow officer, then could really date a former fellow officer with no ill effects? If he's going through a divorce, could the ex make the implication that there probably was something going on before hand?
There's a lot of questions that you need to get answered before you make your decision. But the answer to the title of the thread is actually going to be the same -- That's omething you have to decide for yourself.
Good grief, you don't even really know this guy, and he has children to boot. How you can even consider leaving your job is beyond me. IMO this is total infatuation on your part, think with your head not your heart.
I don't think it's a good idea to give up what you've worked for, for someone you havent had a relationship with.
You need to first find out how serious he is. Then, once you're both on the same page & have a plan - I'd opt for a transfer or something. Giving up your career is quite extreme at this point.
It's been years since my boyfriend died. And I prayed to God a few months ago can he send me the perfect guy for me. Well i met this guy at work. We are both in law enforcement. He is a supervisor and everybody respects him because he treats everybody with respect. We both really like eachother alot. We are on different breaks. Most of the time I will come in for him if he calls me which is alot to help him out on his shifts and he always makes his way to visit me. He told he really liked but he cannot date me because he has alot of lose. If he loses his job he loses the custody of his kids. He told me if I was out of my uniform he would ask me out in a heartbeat. Once we are together it;s like nothing else matters around us. He is so kind.
I live a simple life i pay my own bills and do whatever i want on my off days but I don't like to get out much. We both understand out job is very stressful sometimes. i already put in to other law enforcement agencies and they are very hard to get into.
Would I be completely stupid if i gave up my simple life for him?
Don't use the bathroom where you eat.
A long time ago, I had a romantic fling with my boss and ended up having to resign. It's not worth it - in fact NO MAN IS WORTH JEOPARDIZING ANYTHING [YOU WORKED HARD TO CREATE ON YOUR OWN].
First things first, go out on a couple of platonic day time dates. Lunch, a stroll through a museum, etc. You don't even know whether you are comparable on a basic level yet. If you start spending a lot of time together, you can look at a job transfer to date romantically.
Don't leave your job for him. If you transfer and find a better or equal pay that's not bad. But say you leave and this man still won't ask you out? Then what? Here is a thought....go find a man from that other department. Love and romance is rough. Trust me I know.
Would he give up his job for you? No, he has those kids. You'll still be playing second fiddle. Keep your job. Find someone not in law enforcement.
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