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I still rent in my late 30's and have had no problem getting dates. What I actually often hear from homeowners I've dated is that they wish they were renters. It's turned out to have been a much smarter financial decision to rent than own over the past 5-6 years in my area. Many owners have negative equity.
I agree that it depends. I'm 39 now. Widowed at 34 from my only LTR so no pesky exes in the picture, no kids, I have my own house, I've been at my job for almost 7 years, and have excellent credit. Pretty ordinary life with very little drama and the best friends a girl can ask for. I'm blessed in many ways.
I dated someone on and off for 6 months about 2 1/2 years ago. In the last two years, I've tried online dating 5 different times (eHarmony, Match and OKC-never had a date from any of them), am active in Meetup, volunteer on a regular basis, have taken assorted classes of interest to me (rock climbing, photography, line dancing, kayaking) and can't get a date to save my life. Actually, that's not entirely true. I did meet a friend of a friend a few months ago who made it abundantly clear from the initial contact (by him) that meeting me was inconvenient because he doesn't like to break from his routine. So, I'm currently averaging a date about once every 2 years. But, dating is the one area of my life that has always been a struggle. I've only had 3 BFs in my life: 2 in HS and then my late hubby, who I met just before I turned 26.
This is sad, but my story is similar. I got divorced (which felt like a death because I didn't want it) and dating has been rough, not matter what site I've been on. I've tried all the ones you have, and do similar activities (meetup, volunteer, etc). Anyway, I wish I had an answer for both of us.
Pretty much non-existent and not really important to me at least right now and for the forseeable future. Always can change at any moment if the right woman crosses my path.
Bad experiences and enough rejections have helped me learn to love other things in life and expect absolutely nothing from women.
Putting sex aside, I'm at the point in my life where relationships with women are too painful to deal with. Enough headaches and heartaches for one lifetime thank-you very much. Not to mention I don't need someone inisisting that I adhere to rules of curfew and prohibition.
I don't go actively searching for hook-ups or potential relationships but I'm not one to reject the opportunity to meet a good woman if the situation presented itself.
I've done fairly well for the past decade and a bit without wanting or needing a woman in my life. I see more people running to the courts to destroy what they shouldn't have gotten themselves into in the first place. Don't need to experience the same fate.
They're more likely to be secure in their jobs
They usually own a home
They often can cook (when ladies ask me how I got to be such a talented cook I say, 'I like eating, it was a natural progression')
Usually (not always though) they no longer have to be picked up after
The good ones are out of that skirt chasing phase
They appreciate your friendship more
If they have kids, they usually are out of the house or teens
Yes.
I think the biggest positive of all is they have relationship experience. They no longer think that the way their parents loaded the dishwasher is the only acceptable way, or that the end of the honeymoon phase means they no longer love the person.
Second biggest positive: People over 40 are so much better in bed! I had no idea.
I agree that it depends. I'm 39 now. Widowed at 34 from my only LTR so no pesky exes in the picture, no kids, I have my own house, I've been at my job for almost 7 years, and have excellent credit. Pretty ordinary life with very little drama and the best friends a girl can ask for. I'm blessed in many ways.
I dated someone on and off for 6 months about 2 1/2 years ago. In the last two years, I've tried online dating 5 different times (eHarmony, Match and OKC-never had a date from any of them), am active in Meetup, volunteer on a regular basis, have taken assorted classes of interest to me (rock climbing, photography, line dancing, kayaking) and can't get a date to save my life. Actually, that's not entirely true. I did meet a friend of a friend a few months ago who made it abundantly clear from the initial contact (by him) that meeting me was inconvenient because he doesn't like to break from his routine. So, I'm currently averaging a date about once every 2 years. But, dating is the one area of my life that has always been a struggle. I've only had 3 BFs in my life: 2 in HS and then my late hubby, who I met just before I turned 26.
How many of these dates were initiated by you? Do you ask people out? Do you message them first, on dating sites? A lot of guys like to be asked .
LOL she has just experienced trouble and wants to go for it again? People truly keep making the same mistakes.
That's why when you finalize your divorce you are suppose to buy a bat, give it to a trusted friend and say, "Hit me in the face with this bat if I ever...EVER want to get married again."
Im over 40 and looking. But its kind of like buying a used car. You dont know the history, how many people have driven it, and there are probably hidden problems you will find out later after you have invested waaay too much.
Im over 40 and looking. But its kind of like buying a used car. You dont know the history, how many people have driven it, and there are probably hidden problems you will find out later after you have invested waaay too much.
If you go in thinking people are like used cars, I doubt you'll have much success. People find it so flattering to be seen as used goods.
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