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Youd be shocked how many women absolutely crave a dominant man in the bedroom. Expand your experience and step outside of the comfort zone, even if its as an experiment. Life begins just outside of one.
There's dominant, and then there is kicking the crap out of your woman until she is near death. LOL!!!
Golly, I wish I had seen this thread before the sexual details were cut out. I will have to guess what we are talking about.
OP, it sounds like, you, and maybe she, and definitely a lot of the posters here, are severely confused about the difference between dom/sub play in sex, and having a partner who is abusive or violent. They are practically polar opposites.
I strongly suggest you do some googling about BDSM relationships. NOT porn, but people writing about how it works IRL. Particularly, read up on the differences between BDSM and abuse.
And then, try it out . If you both like the sub role best, you can take turns . Google 'service dom'. You can be that for each other. Also read up on the difference between 'top' and 'dom'. That might be very useful.
but I will stomp a man into the ground in a hot second when he doesn't back down. That said, I don’t think that makes me a “bad boy.”
Lol... I love when people say this because there is no potential that the other guy might be able to kick your a--, since you are sooooooooo mad that he won't back down. Haha.
Oh my gosh, I see red flags all over the place with this one. Go slow! Build trust. Do not attempt to choke her or hurt her during sex until you know her a LOT better or you could be in for a world of trouble. Based on her track record she sounds damaged and therefore might be unpredictable.
Have you had a disagreement or fight yet? How she reacts when she feels insecure, trapped or angry will be a big giveaway.
2 months is indeed very short and we seem to be going very fast. I do not attempt anything but vanilla - she is the one that grabbed my hands and put it there...and I didn't know what to do. I was uncomfortable with it. When we talked about it, all she says is she likes it rough and a little pain, but this happened recently. Before this, I thought I was performing well dipping into my old bag of tricks, but I was apparently wrong.
I've only been talking about the sex, but otherwise, she is a very sweet and smart girl. We have similar, almost the exact same tastes, even with things I would consider a bit unusual or esoteric. We enjoy being in each others' company. We haven't fought yet and she seems like a pretty happy girl, always smiling and joking.
But there maybe something lurking. I've been thinking that maybe her ex wasn't abusive, but she was asking for it and then she trapped him. Bad thoughts... but I know I should be careful even if she doesn't seem like the manipulative type.
I would probably have to leave her. Doing "violent" things like choking a woman to get her off would upset me at my current stage of life. If a woman told me she gets off on "getting hurt" I would have to back off for a while.
Then again, a hard whack across the jaw from a woman's hand has always gave me somewhat of a boner.
I have my own limits but I don't want to be unwavering. I would never hit her and I'm not into any kind of dirty play... that is where my line in the sand is. Some people draw the line at asphyxiation and I understand why. It's borderline crazy to me but I'm posting this because I really don't have experience with any of this and confused.
Golly, I wish I had seen this thread before the sexual details were cut out. I will have to guess what we are talking about.
OP, it sounds like, you, and maybe she, and definitely a lot of the posters here, are severely confused about the difference between dom/sub play in sex, and having a partner who is abusive or violent. They are practically polar opposites.
I strongly suggest you do some googling about BDSM relationships. NOT porn, but people writing about how it works IRL. Particularly, read up on the differences between BDSM and abuse.
And then, try it out . If you both like the sub role best, you can take turns . Google 'service dom'. You can be that for each other. Also read up on the difference between 'top' and 'dom'. That might be very useful.
I don't know anything about BDSM. I was never interested in it, but I know about it generally speaking. Thanks for the keywords! I will definitely look this up because I think is the avenue she wants to go down - not abuse. I have something new to learn.
Try light biting, hair pulling, holding her arms so she can't move while you drive her wild I really find it a turn on, and need a dominant man. Of course there is a time and place for romantic and sensual too... No reason you can't be both, lighten up and have fun exploring your dominant side.
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. If you both like the sub role best, you can take turns 
