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A similar thread got me thinking about these scenarios. I've experienced all of them, and reacted in different ways. It's very easy to think that you'd react the same in all of them. But would you?
1. You're sibling tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
2. An acquaintance at work tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
3. Your wife tells you her sister is cheating on her husband.
4. Your best friend tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
5. You find out your best friend's spouse is cheating on them.
1. You're sibling tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
I'd try to offer advice that cheating is never a good option, no matter what and leave it there. It's a sibling. My loyalties are always tot he,
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2. An acquaintance at work tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
Tell them there's TMI from someone not a friend.
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3. Your wife tells you her sister is cheating on her husband.
We would no doubt discuss it and see where my wife wants to go. But it's her sister, not mine. I am out of it only to the point where it concerns my wife.
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4. Your best friend tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
See also #1
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5. You find out your best friend's spouse is cheating on them.
I'd have to tell my friend. It would be painful for my friend and awkward for me, but this is my friend we're talking about.
A similar thread got me thinking about these scenarios. I've experienced all of them, and reacted in different ways. It's very easy to think that you'd react the same in all of them. But would you?
1. You're sibling tells you they're cheating on their spouse. I'm disappointed. I tell her to tell her husband the truth and to work on her marriage.
2. An acquaintance at work tells you they're cheating on their spouse. TMI!
3. Your wife tells you her sister is cheating on her husband. I'll pretend it's my husband's brother. I'm disappointed. I ask if they're going to marriage counseling.
4. Your best friend tells you they're cheating on their spouse. I'm disappointed. I tell her to tell her husband the truth and to work on her marriage.
5. You find out your best friend's spouse is cheating on them. I tell her.
Had many stupid coworkers go back to a man that cheats not once but 3 times.
I said you are dumb. If he cheats once he will again. Looooong behold time has past he cheats AGAIN!!!!
Big shocker.
A similar thread got me thinking about these scenarios. I've experienced all of them, and reacted in different ways. It's very easy to think that you'd react the same in all of them. But would you?.
1. You're sibling tells you they're cheating on their spouse. Listen to them, suggest marriage counseling. Support them if they are going to confess to their spouse or leave the marriage (and just for clarification, support does not mean defend).
2. An acquaintance at work tells you they're cheating on their spouse. TMI...end the conversation when I see it going in that direction and walk away.
3. Your husband tells you his sister is cheating on her husband. None of my business. That would be his side of the family and he would have to deal with that as he sees fit. I'd listen and be supportive of him though.
4. Your best friend tells you they're cheating on their spouse.Listen to them, suggest marriage counseling. Support them if they are going to confess to their spouse or leave the marriage.
5. You find out your best friend's spouse is cheating on them. Confront the cheating spouse and let them know I am aware of what is going on...not sure beyond that.
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A similar thread got me thinking about these scenarios. I've experienced all of them, and reacted in different ways. It's very easy to think that you'd react the same in all of them. But would you?
1. You're sibling tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
2. An acquaintance at work tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
3. Your wife tells you her sister is cheating on her husband.
4. Your best friend tells you they're cheating on their spouse.
5. You find out your best friend's spouse is cheating on them.
I'd butt out on all of those situations. I will not be the messenger that gets shot up.
I'd butt out on all of those situations. I will not be the messenger that gets shot up.
I don't tell in situations 1-4, but for #5, I have to man up and tell my friend. I would be more worried that he or she not only find out about their spouse, but also found out that I knew and did not say.
I'd butt out on all of those situations. I will not be the messenger that gets shot up.
I'd tell my best friend. It's my job. If she catches an STD because her spouse was cheating on her, I don't think I could live with myself for keeping my mouth shut.
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