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11-05-2007, 09:44 PM
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Dating someone who's not yet divorced
I have a friend who met someone who has been separated for several months but is not yet divorced. They seem to like each other and he has hinted at taking her out on a date.
I have some friends in common with this man and I've heard that his ex-wife is pushing hard through their kids to reconcile with him but that he's not biting.
So is it a good idea for my friend to go out with him or should she hold off until his divorce is finalized? I'm not sure when that will be but they can and do happen quickly in our state.
I'm inclined to say she should wait- with the ex-wife trying to get back into the picture, him dating her would likely create too much drama. Once the legalities are done that chapter will be closed in a sense.
Other thoughts?
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11-05-2007, 09:47 PM
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Red flag for me. I'd wait for a more permanent separation before getting involved with someone not necessarily free and maintain a friendly relationship
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11-05-2007, 09:57 PM
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Red flag here too. Why ask for trouble. The x could win him back.
But if your friend goes into it with open eyes and knows the risks it could
be ok, and she might find after date #1 she would not want to see him
again anyway.
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11-05-2007, 10:32 PM
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Red flag, me three, she should keep it moving  |
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11-05-2007, 10:44 PM
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Kids involved??? Hang tight.... Let them sort out their garbage before it becomes her's would be my thought.....
Of course, not knowing the circumstances behind the divorce clouds ALL of our judgements here, so.....
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11-05-2007, 11:37 PM
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She should wait and not be his rebound squeeze. Let the dust settle on his divorce before proceeding forward.
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11-06-2007, 12:43 AM
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Kids involved she wants him who knows how he really feels. Maybe he is just testing the territory to see who is interested..
She should stay away far far away..
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11-06-2007, 01:11 AM
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Personally, I wouldn't do it. I agree with what an earlier poster said -- let them sort out their garbage first.
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11-06-2007, 01:26 AM
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Personally I wouldn't have him even after his divorce was final. If he can date someone else while still married to this wife, then he can do the same to your friend.
I would NEVER want to be what seperated a parent from their children. If there is any chance at all that they can work their marriage out then that is what I personaly would want them to do. NOT to stay together and hate each other for the kids sake but to have a real life.
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11-06-2007, 03:34 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren
Personally I wouldn't have him even after his divorce was final. If he can date someone else while still married to this wife, then he can do the same to your friend.
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Excellent posting! You are absolutely correct!! |
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