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Old 06-17-2013, 09:03 PM
 
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There is this guy who is interested in me. But. His most recent wife (he's been married twice and he's in his thirties) separated from him because she said she was in an "unhealthy marriage". She was a stay-at-home-mom at the time, and she was trying to get away from him by starting her own business so that she could support herself and their daughter. After all that, they then got back together, but ultimately divorced a couple of years later.

I don't know this ex-wife personally, so I don't have a way of clarifying what she meant by "unhealthy marriage", aside from asking him directly.

Going on this information alone, would you continue to let this guy pursue you? Or would this be enough of a red flag to make you run?
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:06 PM
 
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Red Flag galore. Red flag #1: he was married twice. Red flag #2: his wife was trying to start a business to get away.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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I actually agree with IDDY. It sounds like he is one of those men who may prefer that his wife remain at home taking care of the children. He may also be controlling the household finances. A huge red flag is that he is in his 30s and his second marriage is already ending.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:29 PM
 
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I actually agree with IDDY. It sounds like he is one of those men who may prefer that his wife remain at home taking care of the children. He may also be controlling the household finances. A huge red flag is that he is in his 30s and his second marriage is already ending.
He does make a lot of money, and sometimes I get the sense that money and success are his top priorities. That would certainly make for a lonely relationship.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:31 PM
 
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Red Flag galore. Red flag #1: he was married twice. Red flag #2: his wife was trying to start a business to get away.
And he's only 36. I know that it's common these days to have a failed marriage by the time you're in your thirties, but two of them?
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:35 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Big red flag.

She wanted away from him badly enough to end her SAHM gig and start her own business.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:37 PM
 
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You can try to learn him more. Maybe his unlucky past turned him to be better? But be ready to say him 'Goodbye'.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:38 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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I wouldn't continue anything with him. He doesn't look like a safe bet.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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you'd have to question a person that has two failed marriages.

personally, I wouldn't get involved

And besides, you're dealing with a married man; legally separated isn't the same as legally divorced.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:45 PM
 
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you'd have to question a person that has two failed marriages.

personally, I wouldn't get involved

And besides, you're dealing with a married man; legally separated isn't the same as legally divorced.
No - he's not married anymore. See my quote. I would never date a married man.

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