Brother-in-law got tricked into getting this girl pregnant!!! (date, loving, American)

[bailey19782000]

been through a similar thing with my husband. he met this girl when he was in college they dated for a few months and broke up , she said she was pregnant so they got back together, this time living together only she supposingly lost the baby. after about 2 months of living together they split up he moved down here. about 4 months after we started dating she started calling his parents telling them she was pregnant. my husband was so sure she was lying that he dismissed it all. then after we were married and i was 8 months pregnant with our daughter a letter came for him from state of ohio. it was a summons to take a dna test. 99.997% that is his kid! now he is paying out the ass. the moral of this story is wrap it up! my husbands excuse was that she was on the pill.

[Rance]

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

I believe I was "tricked" into even reading this topic!!!

Your killin me! Ahahahahahahaha!

Ok...I don't know what to tell you OP! I mean...what do you hope to accomplish? If this indeed is true...yes it's a shame a woman would pull a stunt like this. But who's to say "he" didn't pull the stunt? Maybe "he" wants a child and tricked her! We don't know this guy. How well do you know him? And how are we to know "YOU" are not the so called brother inlaw? Is there some thing your not telling us? It's ok. Let it out.

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by willowtree22

OK.. my brother in-law was in a very long relationship.. then all of the sudden this girl at his work told him that his girlfriend was cheating on him.. so he dumped her.. then this new girl proceeded to ask him to hang out with her.. she told him that she had ONLY 5% chance of getting pregnant and to NOT wear a condom.. well 1 month later guess whose pregnant.. he was devistated.. he actually learned in that time that he didn't like her at all.. she now proceeded to cut him off from his x- girlfriend talking to him and his friends.. ever since she found out she was pregnant she quit her job.. to stay at home and relax.. he now works 7 days/wk.. but feels like he need to stay with this crazy ***** for the child...what do u think????

Well heres a side note... shes been engaged 2 times before and dumped 2 times as well.. the last person she was with before my brother in-law she got pregnant and lost the child... She has about a million baby things saved...shes ONLY 22!!

And my brother in-law feels like he owes her for getting her pregnant.. but i KNOw it was all in her plans... she is so in-love with the fantasy of having a kid and being married,, shes trying so hard to get him to marry her... AND YES she IS pregnant Unfortunately.

its a brutal ancient game. still played successfully by many.
do the tubes, lightening can strike twice.
he is vulnerable to con jobs needs to be removed from danger.

[yellowsnow]

Originally Posted by arguy1973

dna test ..dna test ..dna test ...

Amen, amen, amen.........

[willowtree22]

here is the thing- I AM HIS SISTER IN-LAW- OK STOP saying Im him.. if I WAS him i Would have saw her coming.... My husbands family WON'T say ANYTHING about thisa situation to him... SOOOO i feel a need to get some advice on the situation.. trying not to make my opinion the ONLY one... But i DON'T think that he will get a DNAtest BECAUSE NO1 has ever told him "do u think this kid may not be urs" NO1 so he thinks its his... hes getting attached too..he heard the heart beat.. ??? i mean should i say something.. or is that too weird.. that will set me apart from my husbands family, If i do.

[willowtree22]

Originally Posted by bailey19782000

been through a similar thing with my husband. he met this girl when he was in college they dated for a few months and broke up , she said she was pregnant so they got back together, this time living together only she supposingly lost the baby. after about 2 months of living together they split up he moved down here. about 4 months after we started dating she started calling his parents telling them she was pregnant. my husband was so sure she was lying that he dismissed it all. then after we were married and i was 8 months pregnant with our daughter a letter came for him from state of ohio. it was a summons to take a dna test. 99.997% that is his kid! now he is paying out the ass. the moral of this story is wrap it up! my husbands excuse was that she was on the pill.

can u agree that she ONLY get pregnant to KEEP him!!! ???

[theqbaby]

From info gathered within your two threads, I have concern for your relationship with your husband.

First, your thread about your sister-in law and her children....
I understand too well, the feeling you are having about visiting. I have a similar situation.
I am not thrilled to visit because I know the kids will be running all over and there will be no quality time with MIL/FIL. BUT they are fine with the situation and who am I to judge them. When we can, we take MIL/FIL out to dinner without all the yahoos running around.
No we don't agree with everything, but we are happy to see them regardless of the atmosphere BECAUSE we know/realize LIFE IS SHORT. I have lost both my parents and it helped us to realize that we NEED to spend as much time with the inlaws WHILE we have the chance.


Second, Your BIL... from your post this morning, he has not questioned the paternity. That tells me that he has accepted and is anxious about the new baby. You need to be cordial at the least. If everyone directly involved is accepting, please let it be.
It is his life. If there is a lesson he needs to learn, only he can experience it. He will resent you for being negative.


So, your husband is also going to become resentful of the waves you are causing in HIS family.
Everyone (but you) is accepting of the SIL and her children. They may not always be happy about it but they accept it.
Now your BIL, seems everyone has accepted the situation as well. BIL is excited, they throw a baby shower ect.
By giving your 2 cents on these matters will only make you look bad in their eyes. You will become the trouble maker.
Which in turn, will start problems with your husband.
Your husband is close to his family. This is something you should of looked hard at before marriage. In a way, when you married your husband, you also married into the family.
Blood is thick, in most situation.
I would strongly advise you not to make any waves in a tight family situation as this.

We all have opinions, sometimes its best to keep them to yourself.
Things have a way of working themselves out, for good or bad.
Spend time with his family. You live miles from them, so it can only be hours at most that you have to keep your opinions to yourself.

SEEK THE PATH OF LEAST RESISTANCE !
(my husband always tells me this)

Please consider these thought for the sake of your marriage.
Ultimately, your husband will defend his family and you may be asking for bigger issues than the ones you have no control over.
AND show the new baby lots of love, regardless. This baby did not ask for this situation.

[Mooseketeer]

It takes two to make a baby , he doesn't sound like he was tricked to me. I assume he knew the facts about the" birds and the bees" and had he chosen to keep the contents of his pants to himself he wouldn't be in that mess.

I am always amazed how the woman always gets blamed. Contraception is a responsibility for BOTH sexual partners , and should be shared equally. There really is no excuse for a man not to use a condom, no matter what the woman says. I would suggest abstinence next time or a pack of Durex.

Unprotected sex is not only irresponsible because of unwanted pregnancies, it is dangerous and both could now have STDs for all you know, including AIDS as they are obviously fairly free with their "favours". What an incredibly stupid risk to take for a few minutes of fumbling.

I'm sorry if I sound rude but your brother in law only has himself to blame and is a complete idiot.

[SaveMtns]

I'm thinking it would be a good idea to invest your time and energy in your own relationship and in your own immediate family. If you require drama, turn on the soaps.

[theqbaby]

Originally Posted by SaveMtns

I'm thinking it would be a good idea to invest your time and energy in your own relationship and in your own immediate family. If you require drama, turn on the soaps.

Good Advice !

If you don't focus your energy away from others doings, you may find a whole lot of drama under your own roof very soon.
You will be asking "WHY" AND "HOW" did things take such a turn.