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So much for what anger can do to you after getting cheated. It made me lie. But I didn't mean for it to go this far.
I was very angry and upset when I found out I was cheated on. But I never told some lie or did anything to cause any major harm. Even when you're upset you still have to think.
What the eff'ing eff?? This is one of the contributing factors why many abuse/sexual assault victims don't come forward. They are afraid of not being believed because of all these false accusations flying around.
It is super easy for women to tell lies like this and start a huge snowball effect.
If this gets out of hand, which is probably already is, you may very well ruin his reputation over something that you won't care about when you get older.
If you lie long enough, two things can happen. If you are unlucky, you will eventually delude yourself into believing your own lies and you will, by then, have become the only person who does. If you are lucky, a person whom you respect will sit you down and tell you the truth about yourself.
At least OP realizes what a mess she has created by lying.
The thing that chaps me is that for those of us who have truly dealt with abuse (physical, mental and/or emotional) . . . lying about someone being an abuser ends up diminishing everyone's credibility. It makes people suspicious and wary about REAL situations where abuse may be subtle (no physical proof, for ex).
SO straighten this out immediately. You should not have been saying ANYTHING about your situation to your family, anyway! Why were your spreading your business around? If you felt you had to confide in someone about being cheated on . . . it should have been a close friend -- never a family member! What if you work things out w/ this person? Now your family is always going to harbor ill feelings to him. So that is the second lesson for your future . . . first lesson, NEVER LIE . . . second lesson, DON'T BE DISCUSSING THIS STUFF WITH FAMILY.
I agree with others . . . you need to correct this lie. And if they don't believe you (say you are upholding your abuser) . . . just SHUT UP and stay away from family - whatever it takes - til this settles down and is no longer the big topic.
In addition, you need to tell anyone who says they are going to "report it" that you will end up getting in trouble for your LIES b/c nothing happened and therefore your EX could file a civil action against you for slander and making false accusations.
I sure hope you have learned some valuable lessons. Running your mouth can end up with legal action being taken - against YOU!!!
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