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Punt him far and long. Both of you will be better afterwards. No reason to extend this into eternity. Let it go and get on with life. This isn't about our objectivity, it's about justifying your position. You never need that to break up with someone, and you have many reasons to leave him. So just leave him.
Thank you for your feedback. And understanding my sensitivity to the situation.
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First of all you don't know what you're talking about. All of this is coming from some lonely Military fool laid up in a bunker watching porn WITHOUT his wife.
Did you call him names, too? If you do it with a stranger, well, that says something about you, right there.
And I noticed, you're not saying how you got a hold of that picture, still.
You didn't say where you found the picture he didn't want you to find. Or where's a good bar where people make out with lesbians while guilt texting their girlfriend on the year anniversary of your mother's death. Just so you know, that in itself makes him a dirt bag. (In my opinion.) He's having a great time while you're grieving? (And knew you were grieving?) That's just stupid and wrong. Lieing about a photo is wrong. Not sharing things with you is wrong. I wonder if he didn't show it to you because you would explode. What happened when you found it?
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I'm really busy. Your antics on my post aren't worth my review. But thanks again for your feedback.
Did you call him names, too? If you do it with a stranger, well, that says something about you, right there.
And I noticed, you're not saying how you got a hold of that picture, still.
That's telling in itself.
Perhaps if you read the post you'd find the answer.
And as far as name calling - no one is name calling. You put yourself in that category.
Yes I have considered this. He has also lied in the past.
OP, I think you have observed enough inconsistencies and odd behavior (him hiding tags he got on his FB, just one example), that you can feel assured you did the right thing for you. You don't need to be with someone you have to second-guess all the time. Hopefully in time you'll find someone who's really straightforward, open and honest, who makes you feel secure and loved. If at some point you find yourself in a pattern of suspicion, that might be a good time to get some help getting over your past experience.
I found a photo of my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years at a bar with his cousin and older male friend from his work, and two girls. My boyfriends arm is around the woman and he is pulling her in close. His hand is tightened around her hip. They both look happy. And they both look like they were making out. You know that "after" tousled look...he states he went home and nothing arose from this.
He claims the two girls in the photos are lesbians. His friend from work who is an older man, is married with a child; he is stating the same thing. And that his wife knew about him being there.
The story is that the older man invited my bf and his cousin to a bar where these two women were. He states he knows the women and are friends with them. My boyfriend and I had a huge altercation and wants me back. During our altercation he was so mad that he said he wanted to f@#% her up until he found out she was a lesbian. He states it was a friendly hug. He also told me that he just met her that night and the picture was nothing. But his friend emailed it to him. Why would he email the photo to him if it was nothing?
Also - why would he hug someone he just met in a bar and take a photo with this person, who they are claiming is 100% lesbian.
I don't believe this story for a second. I broke it off at this point and went as far as blocking him.
I'd like to know what you think about this and how you would respond? What would you do? What would you say? What do you think about their story?
He tells me I have to trust him - but here is where this situation hits me hard. He was out in a bar with a woman on my mother's 1 year anniversary since she died, while I was home dealing with that.. He was texting me - you know the guilty conscience checking up on your partner to make sure they won't accidently show up sort of texting. He said he was out with the guys and never mentioned the women at all.
I would tell you to quit looking for a reason not to trust your boyfriend and just break up with him instead of trying to find anything to "blame" him for the break up. You should admit you already don't trust him so just move on already and leave the past in the past.
I do have a question though, why would you expect your boyfriend to stay home with you on the anniversary of your Mother's death? Do you understand that some people do not know how to respond to someone who is still very emotional after a death, especially on the anniversary of that death.
He handled it the best way he knew how to handle it which was to check on you repeatedly but leave you to grieve in your own way without him trying to comfort you and end up making things worse.
Be happy your man enjoys the company of women. Sounds like he knows how to enjoy the opposite sex...It's not a bad thing....Don't hound the guy because he behaved like a healthy male....as for what you imagine....My dad who loved woman a lot said one thing about accusations - "Never accuse a man or woman of being unfaithful unless you physically catch them in bed with someone else" Other than that - imaginations run wild.....Your description of the photo was and translation of what you THOUGHT was happening in the photo was more creepy in content than what was probably happening - some guys out having a drink and hugging girls....would you have been more at ease if they were embracing men?
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