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Nothing in common? You just said you had a son. Granted, he's out on his own, but there's never an issue where you guys might need to talk a bit? Must be an interesting scenario for the son.
No, there has been nothing we've needed to discuss about him. We each talk with him. He's well adjusted, in a great relationship, and has a successful career already. We have no need to talk to each other at this time.
Yes.
And you don't know how painful that is for me to say that. It saddens me greatly to see the person she became (cold and mean) after we broke up. I don't understand mental illness but whatever. She's history and I wish I could get at least some of those years back.
A friend at work was talking about his ex wife and he said "she is dead to me!" What an interesting choice of words! While the ex wife is not dead in a physical sense and she only lives a few miles away, because the divorce was so tough my friend is coping by acting like the ex wife does not even exist. He has no children with her and no reason to interact, so he has blanked out all memories and feelings for his ex wife. He said he acts like the marriage of five years never happened.
Do you think it is a good idea to act like a person who you were so much in love with at one time and you shared so much together just does not exist? Is your ex "dead to you"?
To me a reaction like that tells me they're not "over it". If someone you dislike provokes a strong comment from you like that, there may be unresolved feelings that need to be sorted out and moved on from. The opposite of love is indifference, not hate.
A friend at work was talking about his ex wife and he said "she is dead to me!" What an interesting choice of words! While the ex wife is not dead in a physical sense and she only lives a few miles away, because the divorce was so tough my friend is coping by acting like the ex wife does not even exist. He has no children with her and no reason to interact, so he has blanked out all memories and feelings for his ex wife. He said he acts like the marriage of five years never happened.
Do you think it is a good idea to act like a person who you were so much in love with at one time and you shared so much together just does not exist? Is your ex "dead to you"?
I haven't spoken to him in 6 years, so even though he's alive, I suppose technically he's dead to me. Not a big deal, as I don't particularly care.
My ex was abusive and yes he is certainly dead to me. Once our child turned 18 that was it for him. So glad I never have to speak to or see him again in this life.
I've come to an interesting point. No longer angry or filled with hate. No, I will not be friends win her. I'm indifferent towards her. I am at a good place in life with a wife who makes being married worthwhile and rewarding. I've acceptd the past, I'm glad it is behind me.
They should stop fooling themselves. Love is forever. My first love of thirty years ago passed away recently...I had some contact with her by phone once in a while- Even though were were not together for all that time- I wept bitterly when I was notified that she had died. Because - good or bad - I loved her...My last wife of 27 years does not reside with me...she lives a few blocks away - She is the mother of my four kids so there is a bond...She was never a loyal person - and brought about some misery...BUT - I love her...she is not "dead to me"..When I visit we always part with a kiss.....People might have their differences and personalities may clash but love is forever...if someone says they have "fallen out of love" it means they never loved you to begin with.
The OP said the man has no children and GKMC replied that it must be awful to send a cheque every month to someone you hate...
I know. I was just responding to this:
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Ignorant assumption on his part that there is alimony being paid...you know, because in every divorce, the man gets screwed and has to pay alimony.
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