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Old 06-23-2013, 11:54 PM
 
Location: California
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When I was young it happened quite often. Then I got married and sort of became invisible for 30 years. Now guys who flirt with me are anywhere from 50-80. It's funny to think that I could be an 80 year old's trophy gf. I won't be, but it's still funny to think about..
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Old 06-23-2013, 11:59 PM
 
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I have seen this a LOT, sadly enough. I know so many young women who wasted a year or 4 with an older guy who, anyone with more life experience could see, was a manipulative loser.

Part of the dynamic in those relationships is that he isolates her from her friends and family early on, so they are not around to warn her. We only find out after she leaves him.
The older guy I lived with did this. He didn't want me to see my family so I didn't for months.
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Old 06-24-2013, 12:00 AM
 
Location: USA
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When I was young it happened quite often. Then I got married and sort of became invisible for 30 years. Now guys who flirt with me are anywhere from 50-80. It's funny to think that I could be an 80 year old's trophy gf. I won't be, but it's still funny to think about..
You must have something even if they are older if their still flirting with you! I'll take someone flirting with me vs not at all any day of the week
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Old 06-24-2013, 12:32 AM
 
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I know a few 90 year old men who flirt with me. I find it amusing, though, because I figure they probly can't get it up anyway, so they're not lecherous or dirty old men, they just compliment me and make me feel pretty, yet safe. I flirt back with them to stroke their egos because they're both widowed and their health's not what it once was, so it's all in fun.
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Old 06-24-2013, 12:40 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I know a few 90 year old men who flirt with me. I find it amusing, though, because I figure they probly can't get it up anyway, so they're not lecherous or dirty old men, they just compliment me and make me feel pretty, yet safe. I flirt back with them to stroke their egos because they're both widowed and their health's not what it once was, so it's all in fun.
LOL, yep.. those old timers can talk a good game... It's nice you just go along with the joke and make the old guys feel good... half of life is just trying to find the humor in things and have a little camaraderie

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Old 06-24-2013, 05:51 AM
 
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Some studies show neither men nor women find an older face attractive.


In one study, 394 men and women, of varying sexual preferences (heterosexual, bisexual, and gay), ranging in age from 16 to 73 were shown 32 pictures of people in 4 age groups. The pictures were of faces that were attractive and unattractive, smiling and neutral expression.

Result: Men and women all rated younger looking faces as more attractive.
While women didnít rate a potential sexual partner differently than a non sexual partner, men showed a clear preference for a youthful sexual partner.


Article published in Personality and Individual Differences 42 (2007) 631Ė639:
Reconsidering the double standard of aging: effects of gender and sexual orientation on facial attractiveness ratings
By: Ursina Teuscher and Christof Teuscher
Department of Cognitive Science, University of California, San Diego.

Sorry, I couldn't paste the graphs. There were 4 age ranges of the pictures used:
1) 18-29.9 years, 2) 30-44.9 years, 3) 45-59.9 years, 4) 60-78 years.
I don't believe this.

I know plenty of young,unattractive women who get no male attention,and pretty older ones that do.

When I was younger I couldn't get men around my age,but older ones tried a lot.
Now that I'm 31,men my age and younger notice me,and the older guys don't give me a second look.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:07 AM
 
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Sounds like he was looking for drugs, not hitting on you.
"Any connections" is old time slang for "do you have a boyfriend" (yeah, I had to look it up). Trust me, the way he was looking at me, holding my arm and patting my hand... the only drug he may have been interested in was Viagra (if they had it then).

I was a 16-year-old lifeguard... clean cut looking, etc, etc... tending the pool. He was a 70+ year old man. (older than my grandfather at the time). Why would he ask me for drugs instead of just going to the part of town where you could get drugs or asking the teens who looked like "hoodlums" that hung out in the area where he could get drugs.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:20 AM
 
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You know, for what it's worth on this thread... I don't go looking for men much older than me for dating. When I did the online thing, my limit was +8 years older. I thought it was + 10, but I just didn't find men in that range attractive at all.

That said, I did fall for (was attracted to) a man 13-years older than me. I am in my early 40s and he's in his 50s. But the difference was I met him first socially and as a friend before falling for him. I fell for his personality. I think he sees me as too young though (he calls me young lady). But he's an exception, not the rule. Like others said, I was attracted to him "in spite of his age."

I also think as people get older, the difference in ages don't matter as much. 13 years (to use that example) is much "greater" when one person is 18 and the other 31. It doesn't feel as different at 41 and 54. I wonder if it feels less at 50 and 63... or 70 and 83?

So it's not impossible for a man to attract a younger woman. But I think men need to keep in mind that most men (including them) are the rule, not the exception with most women. If they think they are the exception for every woman, then they are only hurting and deluding themselves because they are chasing unicorns.

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Old 06-24-2013, 10:25 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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"Any connections" is old time slang for "do you have a boyfriend" (yeah, I had to look it up).
Interesting. I just learned something!

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Why would he ask me for drugs instead of just going to the part of town where you could get drugs or asking the teens who looked like "hoodlums" that hung out in the area where he could get drugs.
I would imagine if you ask enough teenage lifeguards, you can find pot at the very least. I can at least see an old druggie's brain working that way. It was a stretch, perhaps, but I couldn't think of what else "connections" might mean in that context.
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Old 06-24-2013, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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...but then you would have a sexist perv for a father in law...
Yes, because only sexist pervs flirt with younger women.
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