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Old 06-24-2013, 04:12 PM
 
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Must be where you live then
or
you're not hanging in the right places
or
you just don't get out enough.
No I live near Chicago, which has a lot of ugly, old fat guys.

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I am only saying at my age, I haven't met ONE attractive 50 year old. I've met 3 attractive men in their early 40s though. I am sure if I am in my 40s, my taste in men will change dramatically.

At this age, I cannot see that happening, and Yes, if a 50 year old approaches me, no matter how he looks, I would be a bit annoyed. First of all, I don't know if he is married and will wonder why the heck he is still single chasing after a 28 year old, secondly, I would automatically assume he is going after sex.

I am not delusional either.
I don't think you are delusional at all as I feel the same way. Then again I have been approached literally on the street by some doozies, like a man with no teeth and a mullet, a morbidly obese man in a scooter and a very old man with a cane.
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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There aren't a lot of attractive older men that I see, just ugly fat old men.
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Must be where you live then
or
you're not hanging in the right places
or
you just don't get out enough.
Agreed! I see attractive "silver foxes" all the time.

We joke around that the "lake" in the middle of town is basically like a parade of eye candy for all ages.
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Pa
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No I live near Chicago, which has a lot of ugly, old fat guys.



I don't think you are delusional at all as I feel the same way. Then again I have been approached literally on the street by some doozies, like a man with no teeth and a mullet, a morbidly obese man in a scooter and a very old man with a cane.
<blink> <blink> really?
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:15 PM
 
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I think once you are out in the "Adult" world the age gaps are less troubling. I can think of 3 separate ladies I knew in college dating men in their 40s and 50s that I found problematic.

We were really mean, we had nicknames for the men. (Hey, I was 19!!!). We called one the troll. He was 1 ft shorter than his girlfriend. And well, he really did look like one of those troll dolls. Another one? Well he was also let's just say interesting. And we called him Storytime. He liked to read mysteries aloud to his girlfriend and her roommate in their dorm room. And then the last one was when were a bit older, another friends roomie. There was the old man crew who lived in our dorm. The two men who were best friends, grad students, and definitely late 40s. They looked like old men. The two were always inviting women to their rooms for wine and cheese parties. Max age invited was about 22. Or they tagged along with another older guy who had parties. He was mid 30s. A little old, but his goal was to introduce the younger ladies to wine and cheese. He only dated women his own age (or within a few years) and basically just flirted with the younger ladies for eyse candy. It wasn't creepy, since he basically invited like 3-5 women at a time to each party, so safety in numbers.

Oh I forgot one. The Doctor. He was super creepy. About 40, and he was from Africa (country not named intentionally). He basically was seeking out any young black women to "take care of them." So the first of my friends it happened to warned the rest of us. He was always trying to bribe us with either dinner, the keys to his room to use his big screen tv, or watch movies. He would offer to cart us around in his car for errands, and bring us gifts from "home." [Um, after the warning from friend number one, we ran away as soon as he was coming near us at meal times, so this devotion was unwarranted. We hardly talked to him unless we got cornered in the dining hall]

It is really too bad for the older men out there. I had so many sketchy experiences from age 13-22 or so, they never had a chance.
This post is very much in line with my experience of how women I know think and talk about the older guys who come onto them. Pretty different from what you read on PUA/evpsych sites, isn't it?
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Lol, no, I meant I don't know why some people misunderstand this common linguistic shortcut .
And I meant that it's not one. It's an overgeneralization. If you mean "most people I know" say "most people I know."

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Do the same people get upset when they read a picture book to a toddler and it says, 'Apples are red'? Not all apples are.
No, we tend to hold adults on internet forums to slightly higher standards of logic and language than children's books. I realize we probably shouldn't, though.
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:16 PM
 
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<blink> <blink> really?
Yep and there were even more strange guys who approached me. Most of these took place in downtown Chicago. I was quite the hottie in my 20's which meant many men thought I was easy apparently.
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:16 PM
 
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Adding to my above:

I think a lot of the differences of opinion between men and women ITT might come down to women picturing/remembering guys like the ones in Jade's post, and men thinking of themselves as more like Sean Connery .
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:17 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Yep and there were even more strange guys who approached me. Most of these took place in downtown Chicago. I was quite the hottie in my 20's which meant many men thought I was easy apparently.
And now? Same weirdos hit on you?
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:17 PM
 
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Agreed! I see attractive "silver foxes" all the time.

We joke around that the "lake" in the middle of town is basically like a parade of eye candy for all ages.
Well I don't. I see men with grey hair and fat bellies and the hair they have is thinning. Me and my friends used to call it uggos on parade and laugh at these men.
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Old 06-24-2013, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Adding to my above:

I think a lot of the differences of opinion between men and women ITT might come down to women picturing/remembering guys like the ones in Jade's post, and men thinking of themselves as more like Sean Connery .
I don't want any man that people think he is my grandpa.
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