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Old 06-25-2013, 09:06 PM
 
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These have always been the same to me. If a girl looks good she looks good. She can carry herself a certain way to maybe look a little sexier, but physical and sexual attraction are pretty close in my book. A similar correlation with me would be women that I would want to have sex with and women I would want to have sex and a subsequent relationship with.
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Old 06-25-2013, 09:24 PM
 
Location: CA
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I distinguish between aesthetic appeal and sexual attraction, yes. I can find someone beautiful but not attractive & attractive but not beautiful.

Physical attraction to me is something inbetween, where someone is easy on the eyes but also attractive, yet there may be no emotional draw to them.

So in speaking of a person being attractive, I tend to think of physical attraction as more, well, strictly physical, and sexual attraction as having more emotional elements in it.

Pretty much all of the men I've dated were not aesthetically appealing, but I had some level of physical attraction & then some sexual attraction eventually. The latter is unusual for me to have right away.
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Old 06-25-2013, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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So this issue came up in a previous thread I started. How many if you guys distinguish sexual attraction from physical attraction? I always thought physical and sexual attraction to be sort of the same thing.

And for those of you who believe sexual attraction exclusive from physical attraction, do you look at the women your just sexually attracted as more of a one night stand type of thing?
I don't think they are the same thing.

For example, I guess you can say some celebrities are physically attractive, but honestly, they do absolutely nothing for me. I don't fantasize about any of them sexuality.

I've seen people use the words "heavenly" "so hot" "so damn fine" "extremely gorgeous" to describe people they know or don't know.

Honestly speaking, I have NEVER seen one person in real life making me want to use those words.

I have to have emotional connection with a person in order to have sex with him.
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Old 06-25-2013, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Over the rainbow
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...but I had some level of physical attraction & then some sexual attraction eventually. The latter is unusual for me to have right away.
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I have to have emotional connection with a person in order to have sex with him.

I follow SophieLL, orangeapple, and lilyflower3191981, in that there has to be some emotional connection to get to sexual attraction. But then, that's what all the books and surveys say about women.
For me, physical attraction + (intellectual compatibility + emotional connection) = sexual attraction
Where physical attraction = physical attributes + body language + attitude are to my liking (not necessarily beautiful, chiseled, etc.) No fantasies or dopamine rush yet.
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Old 06-26-2013, 12:32 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Physically I think a person is nice looking.
Sexually I want to jump him.
Exactly. The sexual attraction is more like mutual chemistry.


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Old 06-26-2013, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Nashua, NH
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Physical attraction creates the sexual attraction.


If your physically attracted to someone...doesn't that mean you would have sex with them?

For me if I'm not physically attracted to someone I don't want to see them naked. It's human nature.
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Old 06-26-2013, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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Physical attraction usually means sexual attraction for me. On the other hand, I can find someone physically attractive, but not sexually attractive. That's usually the case if they look good, but have an unappealing attitude or personality.
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Old 06-26-2013, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Physical attraction creates the sexual attraction.


If your physically attracted to someone...doesn't that mean you would have sex with them?

For me if I'm not physically attracted to someone I don't want to see them naked. It's human nature.
Not at all. For example just the other day I was talking to a group of women. We were talking about some under 22 year old celebrity or something. The conclusion was, although he was attractive. He was "like a kid" and way too young. Eye candy if you will.

You can be attractive, but not sexually attractive. The average man over 35 might find some 16 year olds attractive but wouldn't want to have sex with them, legal or not.


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Old 06-26-2013, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Milwaukee
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So this issue came up in a previous thread I started. How many if you guys distinguish sexual attraction from physical attraction? I always thought physical and sexual attraction to be sort of the same thing.
It's the same thing to me.
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Old 06-26-2013, 08:48 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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So this issue came up in a previous thread I started. How many if you guys distinguish sexual attraction from physical attraction? I always thought physical and sexual attraction to be sort of the same thing.

And for those of you who believe sexual attraction exclusive from physical attraction, do you look at the women your just sexually attracted as more of a one night stand type of thing?
You are on to something very important here. How I would phrase it is to say that physical beauty does not necessarily correlate with sexual compatibility. The person who is prettiest to look at is not always the person you will have the best sex with. I think most men fail to grasp this, which is part of the reason the put so much value on beauty.
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