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Old 06-24-2013, 08:05 AM
 
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So, I am recently single after a 3 year relationship. I go out every weekend-bars, sporting events, parties etc. I have been asked about 8 times over the past couple weeks for my number by guys I meet while I am out.

I would say about 3 of the 8 guys actually contacted me. Two actually set up dates and the other lost touch.

Question: Why ask if you have no intention of contacting?
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:12 AM
 
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You appear to assume they had no intention of contacting.

Perhaps they did at the time of the asking - but for some reason decided after the fact not to.

Intentions are not fixed - they change. I could list for the next hour reasons their intentions might have changed and I still would not have scratched the surface of how many there potentially may be.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:21 AM
 
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People change their mind, especially when alcohol is involved.

Not that it happens often but I've followed up and it was different and awkward.
Works both ways.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:24 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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So, I am recently single after a 3 year relationship. I go out every weekend-bars, sporting events, parties etc. I have been asked about 8 times over the past couple weeks for my number by guys I meet while I am out.

I would say about 3 of the 8 guys actually contacted me. Two actually set up dates and the other lost touch.

Question: Why ask if you have no intention of contacting?
Wow, I'd like to experience that just once before I die. That's never happened to me despite being single and unattatched for 30 years of my adult life.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:30 AM
 
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Wow, I'd like to experience that just once before I die. That's never happened to me despite being single and unattatched for 30 years of my adult life.
Are you a man?...that's probably why.

Most women don't approach men and/or ask for their numbers. Not one myself, but most women will sit waiting forever for a man to approach her.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:35 AM
 
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I am not a man, so I don't know for sure, but I always figure they are doing it to be polite (and get an easy out). Kind of like the way I get rid of a salesman at a trade show by asking for their company's brochure and then saying, "I have to run, but I will look at this" before it finds the way to the bottom of my totebag. Some are interested in you (they found you attractive to approach you in the first place, right), but I think some ask for your number and they can walk away without hurting your feelings. I don't think they do it to be mean.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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So, I am recently single after a 3 year relationship. I go out every weekend-bars, sporting events, parties etc. I have been asked about 8 times over the past couple weeks for my number by guys I meet while I am out.

I would say about 3 of the 8 guys actually contacted me. Two actually set up dates and the other lost touch.

Question: Why ask if you have no intention of contacting?
I think you're doing well in that area.

I doubt very many would complain about that.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:38 AM
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When i use to go out, I usually ask a few women for their number/s on a given night. I usually put a reference note/# along with their number (my own rating system) that will determine who I will call back first. Sometimes, I don't get to call all of the numbers.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:42 AM
 
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When i use to go out, I usually ask a few women for their number/s on a given night. I usually put a reference note/# along with their number (my own rating system) that will determine who I will call back first. Sometimes, I don't get to call all of the numbers.
Good to know. That might have been the situation in some of my cases. Others, I know I was the only girl they were talking to that night. AKA-party setting I was with the guys for a couple of hours-from the time they showed up to the time they left.
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Old 06-24-2013, 08:43 AM
 
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It's easy when your drunk sometimes, but when your sober and time goes on a bit it seems like it could be awkward. I would usually at least send a text and feel it out from there.
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