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Deliberately work you up into a frenzy and then not deliver on multiple occasions? Is this some sort of power play? If so, do you fight fire with fire in effort to turn the tide? Is it just immaturity, or do these little games serve a valid purpose?
I think the grown up way to respond is just to say directly, 'I don't feel comfortable getting to ____ level of arousal and then not going through with things. Can we agree not to do that again?'
Go with NilaJones' advice. If that doesn't work, dump her - she may have a sadistic bent. I suppose you could try returning the "favor" first if it gets to that point - maybe she'll understand by example, or she may like it, which would definitely lead to me breaking up if I were you.
Is she a freak that's baiting me to take it? I don't know her well enough to feel comfortable playing that game. One thing is certain. It's consuming my every waking thought... I better go on offense quickly or else I'm going to be in way too deep with this girl I'm just getting to know.
Last edited by Philosophizer; 06-26-2013 at 07:29 AM..
Deliberately work you up into a frenzy and then not deliver on multiple occasions? Is this some sort of power play? If so, do you fight fire with fire in effort to turn the tide? Is it just immaturity, or do these little games serve a valid purpose?
Why would a partner... even attempt to determine how to play that kind of game rather than fail to play at all?
Have you already had sex? That's really the question. She could just be chickening out if you haven't done the deed already. Now, if you've already had sex and she's comfortable with you, well, then it's time to talk. And it's also time to be ready to walk away if you don't hear the right things.
I don't think we know enough about her. Is she a virgin? Is she on her period? How long have you been together?
When you say deliberately working you up, is that her initiating sex or you? Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable enough to give it up to you just yet, but gets caught up in the heat of the moment and stops herself just prior.
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